Buffer time...how long do you wait after a breakup to become friends

[sunndoggy8]

I always had this theory that you need buffer time inbetween breaking up with someone and becoming friends with them. A friend of mine disagrees, b/c when we broke up, she thought we could/should have moved right to friendship, but it tooks months for me to feel comfortable with her without feeling guilt about initiating the breakup.

Am I right in the need for buffer time?

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[FUNKMAN]

but it tooks months for me to feel comfortable with her without feeling guilt about initiating the breakup.


how about when the girl initiates the breakup?

Sound like your doing the right thing...
Hey but then again, I've been married for 16 years, what the F do I know...

You could be a real Bastard!
:) just kidding

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[TheGameHHH]

The proper time to wait is 7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days and 12 hours.

IT'S TIME TO PLAY THE GAME-AHHH!

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[erole]

i think the amount of time you went out, and how serious the relationship was constitutes the amount of buffer time. When in doubt, buffer. It's a good plan to let strong feelings have a chance to fade or heal.

You a smart one.

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[CovDiesel]

The proper time to wait is 7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days and 12 hours.


...you're such a liar.. everyone knows it's 7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 12 hours 57 minutes and 46 seconds before you can finally approach the subject of being friends again.. then it's totally up to the girl.. because in the end they rule those kinds of things anyway.

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[furie]

the buffer should be half the lenght of the relationship

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[Jackie Sloan]

I'm thinkin the best buffer is
my helmet gettin buffed...if she doesn't want it she's out for good...screw that "friends" crap

noice!

[sunndoggy8]

I heard a theory that for every month you went out for, it take 2 weeks to get over that person. But that's different. I'm not talking about getting over someone, but rather becoming friends with someone.

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[irishkb]

holy shit you guys are friends with your ex's.. i did not know that was possible...

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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

What is this "friendship after a break up" you speak of? Your ways frighten me!

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[Jester]

So far my buffer time has been forever since I don't really believe in the friendship after breakup.

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[Tall_James]

Never. You'll always be thinking about having sex with her again.

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[The Blowhard]

Friendship is not always an option. Sometimes it's more like "If I did'nt love you I would hate you". That's passion baby! LOL

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[Poison Ivy]

holy shit you guys are friends with your ex's.. i did not know that was possible...



I'ts possible , just not probable. In cases where the breakup is not mutual it's difficult to retain a friendship without one person possibly reading too much into things. It's usually better for both parties to break all ties unless they can both agree on the terms. My ex Steve and I get along great cause neither of us still wants the other. We go out together all the time and talk almost everyday. I can't say the same for most of my psychotic exes.. lol

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