Posting on deceased peoples facebooks

[Lady Resin]

How weird that subject was brought up yesterday? We have a friend who has been staying with us for about 5 years. He was down on his luck. Great guy. Well, yesterday I go down in the basement. He committed suicide. I found him hung. After the cops, detectives, paramedics and the medical examiners left, I tuned into the show. Today I checked out his fb. People are posting on it. Really creepy.

[Kevin]

How weird that subject was brought up yesterday? We have a friend who has been staying with us for about 5 years. He was down on his luck. Great guy. Well, yesterday I go down in the basement. He committed suicide. I found him hung. After the cops, detectives, paramedics and the medical examiners left, I tuned into the show. Today I checked out his fb. People are posting on it. Really creepy.

I had a friend who did the same thing.

This was at the time when Myspace was huge.

Going into his page really creeped me out.

[strawberrypop]

That's horrible. I'm so sorry.

I really don't think it's that weird. It's a way for people to deal with their shock and emotions during the mourning process. It helps them feel as though there is a way to still communicate with the person they have lost. Obviously they don't believe that the person is checking their facebook from the great beyond, but it isn't about that.

It's not the most sensible thing in the world, but mourning typically isn't.

[Furtherman]

Wow... really sorry to hear that. In your own house. I can't imagne.

[ozzie]

First off... holy crap, I can't imagine the shock and horror of being the one to discover a person that committed suicide.

But to the topic, I would imagine that it's more about the people who knew him "gathering" online on his facebook page to share stories, rememberances, etc.?

[Zorro]

There's a family in Long Island that has kept thier dead father/husbands cell phone active for the last 5 or so years so they can call it and here him on the voicemail. To add to the creepiness the son says he occasionally calls it and leaves his dad a message about the important events occuring in his life.

[Kevin]

There's a family in Long Island that has kept thier dead father/husbands cell phone active for the last 5 or so years so they can call it and here him on the voicemail. To add to the creepiness the son says he occasionally calls it and leaves his dad a message about the important events occuring in his life.

Eh, thats not creepy...

Whatever you can do to deal with loss, without hurting anyone, go right ahead.

[Zorro]

Eh, thats not creepy...

Whatever you can do to deal with loss, without hurting anyone, go right ahead.

No, it's creepy. Maybe a month or two, but at some point it just becomes weird.

[Chigworthy]

It really sucks that your friend did that, on many levels. Hopefully it doesn't get to you and your family too bad.

And I tend to agree with Ron on this one. I don't find much difference in this than visiting a burial sight. If anything, cemetary groundskeepers won't have to throw out so many dead bouquets now.

[strawberrypop]

No, it's creepy. Maybe a month or two, but at some point it just becomes weird.

No. Have you ever lost someone? Particularly someone close to you? Because that time when you lose the memory of what their voice sounds like is absolutely gutting. I think it's great that those people still have some small opportunity to keep that memory alive at least. And leaving the messages, that's kind of sweet.

Someone leaving their deceased child's bedroom in the state it was when they died for all time seems creepy to me, but I've never been in that situation, and God willing never will be, so I can't judge. But I can imagine that it would be the hardest thing in the entire world to have to clean that room out.

[PapaBear]

It's no different than when people take out newspaper ads to say things to loved ones on their birthdays or death anniversary. Totally fine.

And, damn... Sorry you have to deal with this, LR. It wasn't fair of him to do that to you.

[Dude!]

posting on a dead-guy's facebook
is not in the same league of 'creepy'
as finding a friend's hanging body

i would be freaked out

[codenhead]

I met a young lady on vacation a year ago. She lived a few hours north of me so we met in Montgomery a couple times and hung out. We kept in touch thru out the year. Around Valentines Day I sent her a text...no reply. I didn't think much of it because she was a busy professional. I sent her a text the next week..no reply. I figured she was in a relationship with somebody so I still didn't think much about it. Week later I looked at her facebook and her sister in law posted about picking her headstone out....freaked me the fuck out. I read thru the posts and it turned out she had OD'd...not sure if on purpose or what.

[sknight]

One month before I left the US, my landlord died while I was upstairs. I didn't notice anything wrong; young guy, didn't hear anything, etc. Anyhow, i went to work, came back at night and shit was going on and his wife tells us he fucking died upstairs.

Anyhow, she's still mourning, like everyday on her facebook, like more than two years later. That's fucking creepy, seeing her post pics of him from time to time, talking about how he's the only man she'll love, etc. She also sends out creepy inspirational emails, with like the sky and shit and deep thoughts kind of sayings.

[TripleSkeet]

I dont see the difference between doing this and talking to a headstone.

My kid I grew up with died under suspicious circumstances as a teenager, and his cousin recently made a memorial page on FB for him. It was pretty cool to see people post old pictures and memories of this kid. Definitely helps the family deal with a tragedy like that.

[Freitag]

I know a guy in his late 40's... he lost his grandmother after a long illness, but she was almost 100, led a full life. Totally messed the guy up. He hasn't been the same since, and his Grandmother died six years ago. What's worse is, he basically patronizes anyone who tries to help him with his depression.

[mj2]

I feel silly talking to rocks as a way to get over my loved one's loss.

[Devo37]

a girl i went to elementary school died recently on the day after her birthday. her facebook page goes from a bunch of "happy birthday, enjoy your day" posts straight into "Rest in Peace" posts. pretty sad and creepy.

[Doctor Z]

Maybe I should quit Facebook... Never know when your time is gonna come.

While I'm at it, I should delete all this porn.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

my good friend passed away in May... 32 yrs old fell down the stairs and landed on his neck......


He was one of the Mafia Wars people, so people post on his wall all the time not knowing he is dead...



Kinda creepy... also Facebook keeps asking me to keep in touch with him witch is more creepy...

[JimBeam]

I have the phone# and email address of a former friend/coworker, no deceased, in my phone and address book because I think it'll be rude to delete it.

[Furtherman]

I have the phone# and email address of a former friend/coworker, no deceased, in my phone and address book because I think it'll be rude to delete it.

Rude to who?

[King Hippos Bandaid]

I have the phone# and email address of a former friend/coworker, no deceased, in my phone and address book because I think it'll be rude to delete it.


same here... it creeped me out when it texted me.... it ended up his fiance took his phone # and phone to stay in touch w everyone

[torker]

I started a page for my dead brother. He's got more friends.

[jauble]

I had a friend that died of cervical cancer at 22. I knew people were posting but I didn't really go the page. One night after going out when I was in school I came home a little drunk and got on facebook and she was online this was a few years after her death and it freaked me out a little.