Doing things alone

[cossackjoseph]

I've recently had a big turn around in my life, relationship ended, and friendships have grown apart: I find myself quite alone. I've created a terrible habit of staying in these past few months, and all for the hesitation of doing things literally by myself.
I hear about people going to F.H Riley's, I think about going to the beach, and doing other activities usually made for at least two (going to bars to watch a yankee game, concerts....)
Wondering if I am being silly for feeling hesitent about this part of my life, or is living life alone (until) more of a commonality then I know of?

[Jujubees2]

There was about a four year period between my last break up and dating my wife and I did pretty much everything alone. It's a little weird at first but after a while you get used to it. I've been to lots of movies, dinners and concerts alone and even took a couple of European trips solo. It actually got to the point that when I got married I had to adjust to doing these things with someone. I've been married for 16 years and still think back to the days of traveling by myself and how much easier it was.

[Furtherman]

You'll be stuck by yourself if you don't go out by yourself.

I go to public places all the time alone (many times I prefer it) and you'll end up meeting new people if you're half a nice guy. Just shake that feeling off of "going alone". There is no shame.

[A.J.]

Doing things alone is how I roll.

[Sue_Bender]

I have no choice in the matter.

[Jujubees2]

I have no choice in the matter.

Sweetheart, do you want to do something alone, together?

[King Hippos Bandaid]

I enjoy eating lunch alone when at work....


still too ashamed to hit a movie by myself...

[Furtherman]

I enjoy eating lunch alone when at work....


still too ashamed to hit a movie by myself...

I eat alone, and most times the only way I'll see a movie is by myself.

[Suspect Chin]

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[celery]

I find it sort of relaxing to see a movie by myself. I never really understood the stigma associated with that.

Eating alone, I can understand. It's a little awkward to sit there and eat by yourself and not have anyone to talk to.

[tanless1]

That shouldn't shame you. Paying that price at the candy counter,willingly, that should shame you.

[Furtherman]

Eating alone, I can understand. It's a little awkward to sit there and eat by yourself and not have anyone to talk to.

Because talking and eating go together so well.

[realmenhatelife]

I would much rather see a movie alone than eat in a restaurant by myself. The majority of the movies I see are alone, I'm not sure what I would do besides stare at my plate in a restaurant.

[Dirtbag]

I'll never get why people have a problem going to the movies alone. Its not like you're there to have a conversation. I don't even remember the last time I didn't go by myself.

[celery]

Because talking and eating go together so well.


I'd hate to have a dinner date with this guy; or somethin'. heh

/chip

[sailor]

I'll never get why people have a problem going to the movies alone. Its not like you're there to have a conversation. I don't even remember the last time I didn't go by myself.


People are weird.

[Chigworthy]

A side effect of our technologically-fueled cultural evolution is isolationism.

[Doctor Z]

I masturbate alone.

And since I masturbate constantly, I'm pretty much always alone.

Welcome to the club.

[underdog]

I enjoy eating lunch alone when at work....


still too ashamed to hit a movie by myself...

Going to movies alone is great.

[Contra]

Is drinking alone a bad practice?

[Devo37]

i enjoy eating lunch alone reading the newspaper. i hate when i'm having a nice, quiet lunch and a co-worker pulls the ol' "mind if i sit down?" thing.

also, i have no problem eating alone at a diner, but for whatever reason, i wouldn't normally eat at a 'fancier' restaurant alone.

[Dude!]

also, i have no problem eating alone at a diner, but for whatever reason, i wouldn't normally eat at a 'fancier' restaurant alone.



yeah, the counter at a diner
is great for eating alone

[torker]

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[FUNKMAN]

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this lyric never made sense to me: "when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself"

when you are alone is there really a choice? anyway

I divorced in feb 2007 at age 44 after close to 21 years of marriage. moved in with Dad for 4 months and began dating someone during that 4 months. then moved into an apt june 2007. in Jan of 2008 I broke up with that girl and for the first time in my life I was alone. i grew up with my parents and 4 siblings. went right into marriage. after divorced lived with my Dad. then I had my girlfriend.

After breaking up with my girlfriend I couldn't be alone for 1 day. I sat in my living room and the feeling of loneliness was overwhelming. I cried and begged for my girlfriend to come back. After several breakups and beggings, plus an additional relationship, I started to finally learn to be okay by myself. I prefer not to be alone but I've learned to not be with someone mainly because I did not want to be alone.(i know the grammar sucks)

[torker]

this lyric never made sense to me: "when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself"

when you are alone is there really a choice? anyway

I divorced in feb 2007 at age 44 after close to 21 years of marriage. moved in with Dad for 4 months and began dating someone during that 4 months. then moved into an apt june 2007. in Jan of 2008 I broke up with that girl and for the first time in my life I was alone. i grew up with my parents and 4 siblings. went right into marriage. after divorced lived with my Dad. then I had my girlfriend.

After breaking up with my girlfriend I couldn't be alone for 1 day. I sat in my living room and the feeling of loneliness was overwhelming. I cried and begged for my girlfriend to come back. After several breakups and beggings, plus an additional relationship, I started to finally learn to be okay by myself. I prefer not to be alone but I've learned to not be with someone mainly because I did not want to be alone.(i know the grammar sucks)

come 'er ya big lug
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[zentraed]

i enjoy eating lunch alone reading the newspaper. i hate when i'm having a nice, quiet lunch and a co-worker pulls the ol' "mind if i sit down?" thing.

also, i have no problem eating alone at a diner, but for whatever reason, i wouldn't normally eat at a 'fancier' restaurant alone.



I do almost everything alone, but I never go to "fancy" restaurants. I'll usually get takeout or take a seat at the bar so I can drink alone too.

[FUNKMAN]

come 'er ya big lug
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awww shucks! you made it all better - Lol

[A.J.]

this lyric never made sense to me: "when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself"

when you are alone is there really a choice? anyway

In my case, it usually means I get stuck next to the weirdo or the chatterbox who won't shut the fuck up and let me watch my game and drink in peace.

[Penelope]

I do almost everything alone these days. I don't plan on hanging out with my friends much or meeting new people until I finish my nervous breakdown. I am starting to enjoy going out alone. I take a book and an ipod with me all the time. So I don't even notice the other people around me in when I'm out in public. The ipod is especially helpful. If some weird guy tries to talk to me while I'm out, I point at the ear buds to indicate that I can't hear him, and walk away undisturbed. When I re enter the world of the sane (in a few months hopefully) I think I will be a better person.

[keithy_19]

I never liked doing things alone. I don't know if I still do or not, but I do a lot more alone. I guess my breakup and friends getting real jobs made me do things by myself more.

It's what it is.

[Fallon]

I went to a bar by myself the other night because the storm knocked out my electricity.

I hated it!

[midwestjeff]

I enjoy eating lunch

Shocker.

[Hamey]

I do shit alone all the time. Movies, been to a couple of Yankee games alone. If I feel like going, I go. I don't need to call people just to do something I want.

[LZMan1]

Is drinking alone a bad practice?

not in my book!!!!

[cossackjoseph]

I guess what bothers me about doing anyuthing alone, is it's my only option. I think about my ex- being out mingling and then my imagination goes wild- like there's just crazy orgies going on everywhere she is at - which makes me want to pull the covers over my head and stay in-
I'm in a bad place obviously, and reading your posts it seems that what it would take is just to stop talking and just start doing it -
I get the 4am phone calls or texts from her as she is out somewhere and when I hear all the people in the background I picture the worst
I know the best thing for me is to simply create a giant divider between her and I- to "let go" and move on- but as stated earlier i'm in a bad place, and just can't seem to find the motivation to do what is best for me

[danner1515]

i enjoy eating lunch alone reading the newspaper. i hate when i'm having a nice, quiet lunch and a co-worker pulls the ol' "mind if i sit down?" thing.

I'm totally like that. My co-workers think I'm a weirdo because I always eat by myself. When we were in our old office, I used to eat in my car and listen to Ron & Fez, which I guess might look a bit anti-social to some. Now that we've moved to a nicer place, I like to sit in the park area on my lunch break with my iPod.

I used to be a little uncomfortable with going to concerts and movies by myself, but I got used to it a few years ago. I can usually find someone to go to movies with me, but I'm not heartbroken if I have to go alone because, as others have said, I don't exactly go to the movies to chit chat. Concerts can be a little more awkward because there's usually a good bit of down time between bands where there isn't much to do but drink and stand around. However, I prefer that to dragging along someone who doesn't really want to go and having to worry about whether or not he or she is having a good time. I still haven't warmed up to going solo at restaurants and bars. If I'm eating alone, I'd just rather cook something at home or bring some take-out home. I couldn't imagine ever getting the urge to go to a bar by myself, but then again, I'm not the most extroverted guy in the world.

[TripleSkeet]

I have a question, did you friendships grow apart because you were in a relationship?

Because Ive seen that so many times. Where a guy will start dating and next thing you know his friends never hear from him anymore. Its a shame because then when the relationship goes bad and he tries to come back, alot of his friends have moved on.

Ive been married 5 years, with my girl for 10, and I always make time for my friends. Its the way Ive always been. If we were to split up tomorrow Id have 15 different people to go out and drink with.

Not sure thats your situation but if it was, learn from it. When making new friends dont forget about them once you start dating someone you like.

[zentraed]

I couldn't imagine ever getting the urge to go to a bar by myself, but then again, I'm not the most extroverted guy in the world.

I almost always manage to strike up a conversation when I sit at the bar. Between the other lonely drunks, the bartender, and random people ordering, it's pretty easy to strike up conversations.