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boosterp
05-21-2009, 09:57 PM
My psychiatrist had me thinking and I go again tomorrow, but he said I need to get "it" off my chest.

Since most of us here have short attention spans I will try to keep this short. I have been working on this in my head and much of what I am about to share even my loved ones have not heard. But since I have shut out 3 councilors in my time I need to work this out in writing and what better way than to tell total strangers.

I have a history of major depression, post traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD), and generalized anxiety. Of the nine medications I take 5 are for my mental illnesses, 2 for pain, and 2 are to protect my stomach from further damage. If I go somewhere for more than 2-3 hours I have to carry a pill pack with me for my next dosage of medications and extra pills for the anxiety.

I was in the Army from 1992 to the end of 1999 and was honorably discharged but it was a medical that got me this discharge. As a small guy (5'10 and weighed 125-140 pounds through the 7 years) I busted my ass to prove myself and succeeded and got some pretty cool awards for it. I was a medic, highly trained and did things that would require 8 years of medical school to do outside of the Army. I also saw some of the most awful things that many just read about. I broke bones, damaged joints, and killed my stomach and esophagus while hiding the pain. I am now at a high risk of developing stomach or esophageal cancer because of this. But this is more about my mental state.

As for the PTSD this stems from my job in the Army and how I was treated after my physical disabilities caught up to me. I saw some horrific ways that people suffer and die. Part of my job early on was bagging and tagging dead bodies. Whether it was the drunk who tried to cross the Autobahn on foot, the guy who was sniffing propane and got his by a car, the guy who I had just trained giving himself an IV of Jack Daniels, the guy cut in half between 2 vehicles screaming in pain, the one hit by a high speed train while chasing his dog, I can go on, but I still have these images in my head. There are other things too but I will not discuss that now, or think I can discuss it. The second part is once my physical pain caught up to me. In the Army you were taught that a form of motivating the weakest link is through harassment of sorts. I went from being top dog to being an out cast and shit upon. I was not even invited to parties after it was discovered that I may be medically discharged. I was called names, treated like a 3rd rate soldier, and even my command ostracized me. When the discharge came through that was the final straw in the rejection I felt. This leads me to depression and anxiety.

The depression and anxiety have a couple roots. Part is the rejection, part stems from my physical state. If you look at me I look like a normal skinny 30 something guy. Once I put on my splints for some physical activity it changes. I have to ask for help to do certain things or even open a jar. Or, if I have a little difficulty walking that day you may see me parking in a handicap spot limping a little when I walk. At 22 years old I had broken my left wrist (once left handed) and in August 1996 I had a surgery that I did not consent to nor should of had. I had broke my wrist a few years prior playing football but it also damaged one of the tendons in my wrist causing a cyst. The surgeon was only supposed to remove the cyst and repair the tendon but instead started to smooth some of the rough edges of the bones in my wrist. This essentially caused a cascade of traumatic arthritis. Then, the Army was supposed to provide me with therapy to regain strength and motion but felt it was more important to move me to another assignment against regulations. I had some left knee issues from a accident when learning to parachute from planes, and I was violently puking blood from the damage the pain medication did to my stomach and esophagus. Eventually I was fighting to stay in the Army because my next assignment was a prestigious one at Walter Reed but I lost that fight. I was also in line to go to Iraq for 6 months when we had a DMZ set up but that's a whole different thing. So at the end of 1999 I sat in my parents house wondering what to do next.

Mental health issues, 7 concussions, memory problems, wrist, shoulder, foot, ankle, and knee problems I feel like a human mess. I have broken the wrist, the foot and ankle, my skull, and wonder what I could of broke next if I stayed in. I damaged a knee and a shoulder and wonder what I am going to be like in another 10 years. It really sucks sometimes being me, yet I desire to live. What conflict.

Well, after a failed marriage which a big part of it was due to my mental state, being forced to resign this past June from a distinguished career in medical research (rejection again) and now wondering what to do as I post this. I am not looking for sympathy, just posting some thoughts trying to work out a few things in my head. I always write things down as I work through them and this is what I did here.

Also, I stress the desire to live. I have a great supportive family, my best friend and his family are wonderful, and I have a gf that is amazing. Even as I cycle between mental lows they all stand by me.

Fuck, this should have been posted in the confessional.

Fez4PrezN2008
05-21-2009, 10:16 PM
That is some heavy shit no doubt, but...
1) we like you
2) you are still on the right side of the dirt
3) tomorrow is full of possibilities
4) Ron & Fez is on for 4 hours now!
All the ingredients for a good life. Hang in there budday.

KingGeno
05-21-2009, 10:39 PM
You are good peops, boost. I respect ya. Wish you well on a healthy life.

jessicaduh
05-22-2009, 05:00 AM
I always write things down as I work through them and this is what I did here.

me too.

take care, dear soul. life can be tough and shitty, and it sucks to feel victimized...particularly by an entity you trust and devote yourself to and give so much of yourself to, such as the army.

i'm glad you shared that with us. it's always easier to discuss these things with the nameless and faceless than with the people in our lives. don't be afraid to lean on those who care about you. it doesn't make you less tough.

i know you don't want sympathy, but i truly am sorry for all of your physical/emotional/mental pain.

Tall_James
05-22-2009, 06:02 AM
Fuck, this should have been posted in the confessional.

It is now. I wish you nothing but the best in your life.

drjoek
05-22-2009, 06:09 AM
Can a Mod move this to That's Life so that it is shown respect?

drjoek
05-22-2009, 06:10 AM
And Hopefully getting these things off your chest will help. I wish you well.

Dougie Brootal
05-22-2009, 06:18 AM
i hear ya budday! that is a heavy hand to deal with but just know your buddays are here and will help you! take care friend!

mendyweiss
05-22-2009, 06:23 AM
You're a good guy.
Hang in there, especially since I have some computer issues I need you to address !!

Misteriosa
05-22-2009, 06:30 AM
i know its been pointed out that ultimately we are nameless faces, but i still feel honored that you chose to share this very intimate part of your life with us. youve helped lots of people, both online and off, and it shows the decent and caring person that you are.

i hope you know that im just a PM away if you need a shoulder. :aaw:

hunnerbun
05-22-2009, 06:37 AM
All I can think about as I read this is that the way the military treats people who are risking their lives so others can be free and safe is just appalling to me.
I know I am not an American, but I just had to comment on it.
Hang in there booster, sounds like you are at least on the road to recovery and you are very lucky to have such a good support system from your family and friends!

west milly Tom
05-22-2009, 07:07 AM
Remember Boo, you're valuable and your life is just beginning. Feed the hope that lives in you and don't ever throw in the towel. Evil comes in many forms but you have to consent to let it destroy you. Find beauty in those around you and in the natural order of things, and try to do what's right because nothing strengthens a man like doing right by others. You helped me through the darkest moment of my life and I am most greatful.

Furtherman
05-22-2009, 07:10 AM
Thank you for your service to our country. I wish you all the best.

Death Metal Moe
05-22-2009, 07:15 AM
Yea that is a lot to take all at once boosterp, sorry bro. I don't know myself but I know management for constant pain and shit like that can really grate on you mentally. Then add actual issues weighing on you too and it can feel like too much for one man to handle.

From what little I know about you over this message board you seem pretty cool and strong enough to handle it though. Not like it doesn't get bigger than you sometimes but that happens to everyone.

I can give you a million "Hang in theres" but I was never quite sure if those helped. All I can really add is that you're not weak for feeling like that sometimes and you are certainly not alone.

I hope that helps. The hardest thing is getting your mind to remember all the good things about yourself when those dark thoughts creep in and take over, but try to remember them.

I don't know what it is but our generation seems to have A LOT of anxiety and depression. I don't know if other generations had it and just didn't have names for it all or what but we have a lot of it. They will probably have a study 50 years after we're all dead that tells us why we were like this.

tanless1
05-22-2009, 08:38 AM
have you considerd fishing more frequently, like twice dailey ? float tube'n is awfull relaxing AND..... you get to wear flippers.

Farmer Dave
05-22-2009, 08:55 AM
It really is an embarrassment the way we treat our service men and women post service. I hope you find the help you need and deserve.

Death Metal Moe
05-22-2009, 09:19 AM
It really is an embarrassment the way we treat our service men and women post service. I hope you find the help you need and deserve.

For real man. My uncle was in Iraq, injured his knee, they all but left him for dead. I forget what hoops they had to go through to get a 2nd round of physical therapy for him but it was ridiculous. It should be a no brainer, if you get injured over there you get treatment until you're healed or you can't benefit from it any longer. I know the latter is when some debate comes into play, but most veterans I hear about don't even get to the point where they have to decide to discontinue therapy due to that, they just get dropped.

Thomas Merton
05-22-2009, 01:20 PM
i know its been pointed out that ultimately we are nameless faces

That's why you should post a real picture in your avatar like boorstep and I have. You look like and post like a good dude, to the point that I can even pretend to understand your pain and experiences and post a reply. You cant unsee what you've seen, just try to deal with the physical pain and create new images for your mind's eye

mdr55
05-22-2009, 02:28 PM
Thanks for sharing.

Kris10
05-22-2009, 07:39 PM
I am VERY proud of you! I know we briefly talked last night in pm's and I told you my situation with my ex husband and from what he told me it wasn't anything like you have or are going through. Keeping fighting, you've come a long way and are making progress. One day at a time hun! :thumbup:

boosterp
05-23-2009, 02:24 PM
Thank you everyone, I do greatly appreciate the sentiments both here and the PMs.

I am very grateful for the VA we have here in Houston. It has won many awards and is modeled after by other VAs. The professional staff at this VA really try hard to help.

The benefits office though is another story. But I understand because they are inundated with claims, many are baseless bullshit that ties up the system because some one is trying to get a free ride.

Through my life I have always helped others in a professional capacity and I miss that but because of my issues and my short term memory crap it is hard to now, but I am moving forward.

Thanks again buddays.