STD's and relationships

[Aggie]

*I'm qualifying this thread by stating this has nothing to do with a personal situation. I had the random thought in my car today and was wondering what you thought.*

With the scary statistics of how many people today have STD's how do you deal with that as a single person? Do you think people are really up front about it or will they become more candid about it as society changes? It just seems really scary in the dating world to wonder about every person you meet and if they are infected.

I had a friend that was so freaked about them, if she got serious with someone she would ask them to get tested. Several of the guys agreed but that seems extreme to me.

If you fell in love with someone and then they told you they had herpes would you stay with them or is that a deal breaker? I think I would stay with that person if we had already been together and I was in love with them. But if someone I just started dating was honest with me I don't know if I would and that seems harsh.

I don't know, my mind is just racing with random thoughts today.

[Snoogans]

Just catch em all, then you dont have to worry

[Hottub]

I think the same thing every time I see one of those dopey Valtrex commercials. Could I be with and be intimate with somebody who has an STD?
I honestly cannot say at this point. Would true love win out? I would like to thinks so, but...

[Hottub]

Snoogs. You seriously have to look at the forum before you reply.
C'mon now.

[Snoogans]

Snoogs. You seriously have to look at the forum before you reply.
C'mon now.

fuck. I just go to the todays posts page, I dont ever see what forum im in. Sorry


To my defense, this is a hypothetical question, so i didnt offend anyone

[KingModem]

Snoog has a point here. If you cant beat them, join them.

If you dont have herpes and dont want them, you are stuck with 35% of the population.

If you have herpes, then you get to choose out of the 65% of the population.

I also believe that STD's will be a category on Facebook, right along age, sex, hometown, and looking for.

[Aggie]

fuck. I just go to the todays posts page, I dont ever see what forum im in. Sorry


To my defense, this is a hypothetical question, so i didnt offend anyone

It's OK, you didn't offend. I just put it in here becuase I was looking for some serious opinions and didn't want it to end it a barrage of bad jokes.

[~Katja~]

If you fell in love with someone and then they told you they had herpes would you stay with them or is that a deal breaker? I think I would stay with that person if we had already been together and I was in love with them. But if someone I just started dating was honest with me I don't know if I would and that seems harsh.
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if the person tells you about it it is not really a deal breaker, it also means he/ she is aware if the issue and the fact that it easily can be spread if not properly protected. It means they are as concerned about your health as much as they are about theirs...There are many ways to be with a person without contracting it.

[Dougie Brootal]

i honestly was completely freaked out about this exact thing when i first became single. i felt like every girl i met had something and wasnt gonna be honest about it. thats part of the reason i was so nervous talking to people. i honestly dont know what i would do in that situation though. i dont think anybody knows for sure.

[hammersavage]

I feel like every girl I sleep with is secretly trying to trick me into getting them pregnant (which is the worst STD possible). It haunts me.

[Aggie]

I feel like every girl I sleep with is secretly trying to trick me into getting them pregnant (which is the worst STD possible). It haunts me.

I know several girls who have tried and succeeded so BE CAREFUL! It happens.

[hammersavage]

Shit.

They must be after my fortune.

[Snoogans]

I had sex with this chick one time and caught the flu. It fuckin sucked. Bitch didnt even tell me she had been sick

[styckx]

I feel like every girl I sleep with is secretly trying to trick me into getting them pregnant (which is the worst STD possible). It haunts me.

I worked in a building next to a day care for a year, and you could hear everything going on next door.

Random crying kids, random kids throwing temper tantrums, kids randomly banging and making a racket for 8hrs a day, over the course of a year was the best birth control I've ever received. I wrap it every single time during random lays..

[boosterp]

I am scared of meeting someone with a STD. It is nice to be upfront with your date, but I take that into consideration before the next step happens. After doing a rotation through a STD clinic I became overly cautious and always wore rubbers. I have never had a STD and plan to keep it that way. I have only slept with two women without condoms, one was my wife. It is also part of my yearly lab work because of my 17 years in the medical field so I have evidence that I am clean.

[hammersavage]

Random crying kids, random kids throwing temper tantrums, kids randomly banging and making a racket for 8hrs a day, over the course of a year was the best birth control I've ever received. I wrap it every single time during random lays..

I wouldn't call any of the chicks I've slept with random lays. But even no matter how much you think you know a girl, you DO NOT know anything for sure (unless you marry them and get tested etc.). I'm pretty safe but could always be safer.

[donnie_darko]

treat everyone like they have aids, thats what i do.

I dated a girl for a while, met online, etc.etc. after meeting she told me she had an std, if i could do it over i'd change the way things went. I'd happily expose myself to anything she has than dealing with the people i have since.

[MacVittie]

I'd like to think that I'm not so shallow that I would break up with someone I really cared about if they told me they had herpes. But in all honestly, I probably would.

[~Katja~]

I wouldn't call any of the chicks I've slept with random lays. But even no matter how much you think you know a girl, you DO NOT know anything for sure (unless you marry them and get tested etc.). I'm pretty safe but could always be safer.

what does testing have to do with getting married? I got married and not tests were required.
It think it's a trust thing and also common sense of the person that knows of their condition to warn the other and take precaution.

and styckx, random lays??? you don't leave your house, do you order them in? I'd say its common practice with the hourlies to wear protection...

[BlackSpider]

what does testing have to do with getting married? I got married and not tests were required.
It think it's a trust thing and also common sense of the person that knows of their condition to warn the other and take precaution.

and styckx, random lays??? you don't leave your house, do you order them in? I'd say its common practice with the hourlies to wear protection...

I needed a blood test when I got married, that was 20 years ago...

[~Katja~]

I needed a blood test when I got married, that was 20 years ago...

I guess that's Jersey for ya, they never asked

[BlackSpider]

I guess that's Jersey for ya, they never asked

Oh Jersey,
yeh, they don't care over there...

[jauble]

Many states require a blood test to get a marriage license.

[hammersavage]

what does testing have to do with getting married? I got married and not tests were required.
It think it's a trust thing and also common sense of the person that knows of their condition to warn the other and take precaution.

and styckx, random lays??? you don't leave your house, do you order them in? I'd say its common practice with the hourlies to wear protection...

I said that you don't know anyone for certain unless you get married and get tested. I suppose they could be cheating on you still but you have to trust someone at some point.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I think the same thing every time I see one of those dopey Valtrex commercials. Could I be with and be intimate with somebody who has an STD?
I honestly cannot say at this point. Would true love win out? I would like to thinks so, but...

Kid in my high school was one of the Valtrex kids. His lines: "I have genital herpes" his girlfriend: "But I don't!" then they're riding bikes along the pacific coast highway. Television debut.

[DarkHippie]

Did you know that you can carry Clamydia for over 2 years and never have a symptom? I didn't. . .

[hammersavage]

I'm operate under the maxim "can't happen to me". So i'm good.

[John Galt]

I met a girl my freshman year of college. It was the first time I hung out with her, and she propositioned me for sex. I didn't know she was drunk, I figured she was just a whore. So I turned her down out of STD paranoia. The next day, she comes to my room sober and propositions me again. I turned her down again.

To this day, I wish I had banged her.

If I was in love with a chick, though, I wouldn't care what she had. That being said, if she gave me herpes and then left me 20 years later, I'd cut her head off and dump her in a river. And no, I wouldn't forget to saw off the fingertips and teeth. What am I, an amateur?

[led37zep]

STD's are the proof that you're not a Virgin.

You don't want to be a Virgin do ya?

[PapaBear]

I had a good friend years ago who had herpes. He spread it to a few girlfriends without telling them first. It pissed me off, because I liked them, too. We always had the same taste in women. He eventually was reunited with a girl he met in high school. They fell in love, and he decided he would do the right thing and tell this girl before he slept with her.
She said she loved him so much, she'd take any STD he had with pleasure. The had sex. Turns out, she already had herpes and a couple of other STD's too.:ohmy:

[spoon]

I had a good friend years ago who had herpes. He spread it to a few girlfriends without telling them first. It pissed me off, because I liked them, too. We always had the same taste in women. He eventually was reunited with a girl he met in high school. They fell in love, and he decided he would do the right thing and tell this girl before he slept with her.
She said she loved him so much, she'd take any STD he had with pleasure. The had sex. Turns out, she already had herpes and a couple of other STD's too.:ohmy:

What a touching love story!

[PapaBear]

What a touching love story!
She was a real winner. She divorced him for a guy she met on the internet in 1994. LONNNNG before it was hip.

[spoon]

She was a real winner. She divorced him for a guy she met on the internet in 1994. LONNNNG before it was hip.

And legend has it that guy was Cyber Soldier.