I'm to nice

[keithy_19]

I am. There's nothing wrong with that. But I've realized that I'm to nice.

Discuss.

[Slumbag]

Them's fightin' words!

[TooLowBrow]

I am. There's nothing wrong with that. But I've realized that I'm to nice.

Discuss.

whose two nice? ewe? mii? your nutz

[PanterA]

I'm to nice.as I'm to mean

[boosterp]

My niceness balances out my evil side so much of the time I walk through life only thinking of what I really want to blurt out loud.

[Sinestro]

Girl issues again? Don't let that girl get you down. There are more girls out there. Good luck.

[meanmrbill]

You're definitely to(o) something.

[keithy_19]

Girl issues again? Don't let that girl get you down. There are more girls out there. Good luck.

Nah. I'm good.

Though, I've noticed that when I say a nice thing to a girl they don't take it the same as when a guy who's an asshole says it.

Apparently, not only wanting to have sex and really meaning nice things and being a good guy is looked down upon.

But that's not what I'm really getting at. I'm just a nice guy who legitimately wants to do good things for people and who doesn't expect anything in return.

[Gvac]

I'm just a nice guy who legitimately wants to do good things for people and who doesn't expect anything in return.

Apparently that's not true, or else you wouldn't have started a thread stating that you were too nice.

This means you think you're niceness is above and beyond what it should be. Why? Because you're not getting anything in return for all of this niceness?

[instrument]

I really need to get to japan.

[Sinestro]

Apparently that's not true, or else you wouldn't have started a thread stating that you were too nice.

This means you think you're niceness is above and beyond what it should be. Why? Because you're not getting anything in return for all of this niceness?

Agreed.

C'mon Keithy and elaborate some more.

[keithy_19]

Apparently that's not true, or else you wouldn't have started a thread stating that you were too nice.

This means you think you're niceness is above and beyond what it should be. Why? Because you're not getting anything in return for all of this niceness?

Ya know, you're right. I guess I do expect something. Not much though.

And I guess I'm more pissed than anything. Pissed because my compliments are less than some assholes. Just because I'm always a good guy.

[midwestjeff]

Pissed because my compliments are less than some assholes.

So it is a girl thing then.

Sinestro, get yourself something nice from the prize closet.

[Gvac]

Ya know, you're right. I guess I do expect something. Not much though.

And I guess I'm more pissed than anything. Pissed because my compliments are less than some assholes. Just because I'm always a good guy.

Attaboy, Keithy!

Of all the traits a man can have in this world, I value honesty above all others.

And if a woman values the opinion of "some asshole" over yours, she's not the woman for you.

I'm not trying to oversimplify the situation, but it really is as cut and dry as that.

[keithy_19]

So it is a girl thing then.

Sinestro, get yourself something nice from the prize closet.

It's a general person thing, with a girl being used an example.

You're working and your boss is always an ass. There's another boss and he's always a good guy. You do work and the asshole boss gives you a compliment. You're going to take that compliment to heart more so thent he ones the other boss gives you.

[Sinestro]

So good nice guy = boring.

asshole guy = exciting




You could use your nice guy thing to your advantage. It's one thing to be nice to girls. But you've got to flirt with them at the same time so that they know your interested in them and persuade them onto you. Maybe you're not coming off confident enough.

[Sinestro]

It's a general person thing, with a girl being used an example.

You're working and your boss is always an ass. There's another boss and he's always a good guy. You do work and the asshole boss gives you a compliment. You're going to take that compliment to heart more so thent he ones the other boss gives you.

I don't know why you feel that way. I could care less what the asshole boss thinks cuz he's an asshole. I would take to heart a compliment from a boss I respected.

[joethebartender]

Altruism is the purest form of selfishness... maybe you're just to selfish.

[keithy_19]

So good nice guy = boring.

asshole guy = exciting




You could use your nice guy thing to your advantage. It's one thing to be nice to girls. But you've got to flirt with them at the same time so that they know your interested in them and persuade them onto you. Maybe you're not coming off confident enough.

I've learned to be a jerk slightly. But in a fun way. Not in a jackass way, but in a playful, flirty way.

[midwestjeff]

Altruism is the purest form of selfishness... maybe you're just to selfish.

Not by definition.

Altruism.

noun
1. the principle or practice of unselfish concern for or devotion to the welfare of others

[keithy_19]

Altruism is the purest form of selfishness... maybe you're just to selfish.

And maybe you're not really a bartender.














I don't know what that means...

[spoon]

Wow, is this thread has more versions out there than fucking Windows, Java and Firefox combined.

[Sinestro]

I've learned to be a jerk slightly. But in a fun way. Not in a jackass way, but in a playful, flirty way.


I thought you said you were too nice.

[midwestjeff]

I thought you said you were too nice.

No, he said he was "to nice".

There's a big difference.


And Keithy, as a "nice" guy, you can't learn to be a dick/jerk/asshole. It doesn't work. Just keep being nice and eventually some chick will suck your dick and let you fuck her for a while. Then she'll rip your heart out, ruin your life, and you'll end up jerking off daily to internet porn with no connection to the outside world and crying yourself to sleep at night wondering where your life went wrong and missing the days when you had enough emotional feeling to even think that you were "nice". You'll also be passed up for promotions, ignored by most everyone you encounter, overlooked for kickball, and end up standing alone in the corner for most of your life. Mark Twain once said, "Be good and you will be lonely". I think he meant to say nice.

[keithy_19]

I thought you said you were too nice.

Shh.

[keithy_19]

No, he said he was "to nice".

There's a big difference.


And Keithy, as a "nice" guy, you can't learn to be a dick/jerk/asshole. It doesn't work. Just keep being nice and eventually some chick will suck your dick and let you fuck her for a while. Then she'll rip your heart out, ruin your life, and you'll end up jerking off daily to internet porn with no connection to the outside world and crying yourself to sleep at night wondering where your life went wrong and missing the days when you had enough emotional feeling to even think that you were "nice". You'll also be passed up for promotions, ignored by most everyone you encounter, overlooked for kickball, and end up standing alone in the corner for most of your life. Mark Twain once said, "Be good and you will be lonely". I think he meant to say nice.


Will she love me? That's another one of my downfalls. I fuck for love.

[Slumbag]

And Keithy, as a "nice" guy, you can't learn to be a dick/jerk/asshole.

Yeah. Some people are dicks.
Some are assholes.
Some are pussies.
http://www.bbspot.com/Images/News_Features/2004/10/team_america.jpg

[keithy_19]

Yeah. Some people are dicks.
Some are assholes.
Some are pussies.
http://www.bbspot.com/Images/News_Features/2004/10/team_america.jpg

:lol:

[midwestjeff]

Will she love me? That's another one of my downfalls. I fuck for love.

She'll think she does and you'll believe her and you'll love her very much and then slowly she will pull away and begin to feel unworthy of your admiration because in her mind she does not deserve to be treated so well and then she will throw it all away for a 30 year old high school dropout gas station clerk that lives in the same bedroom he grew up in and you will curl up in the fetal position crying until your mind hits its breaking point and you have an existential breakdown and your world will never be innocent again.

[keithy_19]

She'll think she does and you'll believe her and you'll love her very much and then slowly she will pull away and begin to feel unworthy of your admiration because in her mind she does not deserve to be treated so well and then she will throw it all away for a 30 year old high school dropout gas station clerk that lives in the same bedroom he grew up in and you will curl up in the fetal position crying until your mind hits its breaking point and you have an existential breakdown and your world will never be innocent again.

...are you that gas station clerk?

[midwestjeff]

...are you that gas station clerk?

No.

[keithy_19]

No.

Well, that just makes the situation completely unlivable.

[Jujubees2]

I always think of it this way:

If at my funeral, people are saying "He was too nice" then I lived a good life.

[El Mudo]

Apparently that's not true, or else you wouldn't have started a thread stating that you were too nice.

This means you think you're niceness is above and beyond what it should be. Why? Because you're not getting anything in return for all of this niceness?


Couldn't have said it any better myself. You don't get points in the world for being "nice"...it doesn't get you anywhere on its own by itself, and if you keep expecting it to, you will be INCREDIBLY disappointed.

I went through the same thing myself, but I got over it because I stopped taking myself so seriously.

I started doing my thing and not worrying about other peoples perceptions of me, and guess what? I found out that I was okay on my own, and I wasn't "too nice" and stopped bitching about "why are women only attracted to douchebags" because those are both things that constantly tripped me up. If you truly KNOW what you want, you will realize that girls who think youre "too nice" or who aren't attracted to you aren't really worth pursuing at all, and you will eventually find a girl who thinks youre the bees knees. Those expressions are just cop outs for your own personal shortcomings in regards to confidence...you figure "i'm so awesome I can't figure out why these girls don't want me" which makes you the complete OPPOSITE of a "nice guy".

It just takes time bro...stop trying to move so quickly.

[Furtherman]

Altruism is the purest form of selfishness... maybe you're just to selfish.

Bingo. This "I'm too nice" is bullshit that NO ONE cares about. It's on the bottom of our list of worries.

I've learned to be a jerk slightly. But in a fun way. Not in a jackass way, but in a playful, flirty way.

No MAN says "playful, flirty way". Eeesch.


And Keithy, as a "nice" guy, you can't learn to be a dick/jerk/asshole. It doesn't work. Just keep being nice and eventually some chick will suck your dick and let you fuck her for a while. Then she'll rip your heart out, ruin your life, and you'll end up jerking off daily to internet porn with no connection to the outside world and crying yourself to sleep at night wondering where your life went wrong and missing the days when you had enough emotional feeling to even think that you were "nice".

Yep.


Your problem is you pine too much for a girlfriend. If you drop that sad story, you'll start living your life and some chick will notice that and like you for it. It probably won't happen until you're 30 when girls that age drop the assholes and look for stability.

So. In the meantime. FUCKING PARTY.

And if you start feeling emo again, go back and re-read the advice I've given you numerous times in your numerous threads. I'm not gonna tell you anymore.

[RoseBlood]

Bingo. This "I'm too nice" is bullshit that NO ONE cares about. It's on the bottom of our list of worries.
No MAN says "playful, flirty way". Eeesch.
Yep.
Your problem is you pine too much for a girlfriend. If you drop that sad story, you'll start living your life and some chick will notice that and like you for it. It probably won't happen until you're 30 when girls that age drop the assholes and look for stability.
So. In the meantime. FUCKING PARTY.
And if you start feeling emo again, go back and re-read the advice I've given you numerous times in your numerous threads. I'm not gonna tell you anymore.
Best advice ever!!!

Seriously Keithy, what are you 19, 20, 21 tops? You're young and you're a male. Don't go trying to force yourself to fall in love just because you think it feels good. If it's meant to be, things will happen when they happen, relax. I don't know where you are in life now, guys tend to mature slower than girls, so in 5-10 years your priorities might change and the girl you think is perfect now, might not be when you're 30.

Take Furtherman's advice. Chill out, focus on yourself, date/have sex if you feel so inclined, but given your well documented sensitivites, don't become emotionally attached to these girls unless you know for sure. Have fun, drink, but not alone.

What drives you to let girls seemingly step all over you? Are you afraid of being alone? I know that's a big fear for many. I can't truly relate to that. I honestly am not afraid of ever being alone regardless of any relationship status. It's a big world Keithy, with alot of people so you're never going to be alone if you don't want to be.

[RoseBlood]

...are you that gas station clerk?
This might have been the first time you made me laugh. There is hope for you yet.:laugh:

[TjM]

So good nice guy = boring.

asshole guy = exciting



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That's true of some but I have found at least in my dating experience women do like nice guys. Although sometimes if you try to hard and turn into a doormat that will turn them off

[keithy_19]

That's true of some but I have found at least in my dating experience women do like nice guys. Although sometimes if you try to hard and turn into a doormat that will turn them off

I did that for awhile. I'm not like that anymore. She likes when I get angry, but I don't get angry to make her happy. I get angry cause I'm a human.

[Sinestro]

I did that for awhile. I'm not like that anymore. She likes when I get angry, but I don't get angry to make her happy. I get angry cause I'm a Man.

Fixed it for you.

"I get angry cause I'm a human" WTF?? That's what nice people say. Man up!

[MHasegawa]

Just stop giving a shit. I used to feel the same way you did, bro. When i was much younger (before I joined here) I wasn't the cynical and heartless gentleman I am today. I was a sincere, loving and understanding "nice guy" and everyone I knew (friends and acquaintances alike) realized those traits to take advantage of me and emotionally hurt me. So it became natural to become a nasty and cold human being, that way may leave you very lonely and miserable so I advise you to not take that route. What I think may help you is to not give a shit, be honest with yourself and others and if anyone has the slightest problem with that, SCRAPE 'EM OFF and don't look back.

[keithy_19]

Fixed it for you.

"I get angry cause I'm a human" WTF?? That's what nice people say. Man up!

Sorry.




I mean, fuck off. I'll say what I want.

[Sinestro]

Sorry.




I mean, fuck off. I'll say what I want.


:furious::ohmy::clap::thumbup:

That's more like it! A future Sinestro Corps member in the making.:lol:

[ecobag2]

There's someone you should talk to... (http://ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=76162)

I think you're saying that you have anger you feel can't express ... you're too nice? It's ok or it's frustrating?