venting about my dating life

[celery]

So, I've been seeing this girl over the past month or so. Last Friday, we went out for Sushi, then afterwards went to a bar and had drinks and talked. We got back to my place, I asked her to come in, but she said it was late and she had to go. Which is fine, because it was after midnight. After I kissed her goodnight, I said I'd like to see her again. I mentioned that my friend was having a Super Bowl party, and she should come - she said that sounded good.

Later that night, I texted her, saying I had a great time and I hope she made it home safely. I never heard back, so I followed up on Sunday. Again, right to voicemail, no returned call. I still hadn't heard back as of yesterday around noon, so I followed up again, left a voicemail reminding her about my friend's party. Again, nothing. So I was pretty pissed off last night, and sent her a text:

"[girls_name], it would be nice if you let me know if you were interested or not. It's just common courtesy"

So yeah, I know I probably came off as a dick, and I know that four contacts in a week is probably too much. I know she's probably just not that into me. But I took her out on four dinners, and paid for everything. Am I asking too much to get a call back, at least telling me to fuck off? Or is this just how people operate in the dating world now?

And before someone else posts it, here's how I felt this week.

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[boonanas]

attn: commish13

[undressa]

that does seem werid that after 4 dates then nothing, maybe something happened.
better luck next time

[drjoek]

She just not that into you.

[lleeder]

Yeah that sucks.

[instrument]

Never seen swingers huh?

The repeated messages are puss.

One text one vm, after that if you don't hear anything don't be a whiney bitch about it, sounds like she prob had better options ans didn't want to hurt your feelings.

I've never met a woman scared to return a call...

[Sinestro]

Sorry for your loss.


Go Cardinals!!!!!!

[lleeder]

And before someone else posts it, here's how I felt this week.

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Never seen swingers huh?



Yeah he never saw swingers I'm thinking.

[midwestjeff]

She might be dead.
You should go to her house or maybe
show up at her job to make sure she is ok.

[celery]

HEY - she wrote back

"Sorry Celery, you're right. I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

It's weird because we had some fun two weeks ago after our date, so I thought there was a little something there...maybe I'm a bad kisser. Anyways, I feel 100% better now that she told me.

Onward and upward. I have a third date with this other girl Saturday. Any fun date ideas? Maybe I should make her pay.

Thanks for listening, everyone.

[lleeder]

Has she been talking to Gvac? (http://www.ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=76847)

[midwestjeff]

HEY - she wrote back

"Sorry Celery, I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

Maybe I should make her pay.

Maybe you should, Celery.

Maybe you should.

[celery]

She might be dead.
You should go to her house or maybe
show up at her job to make sure she is ok.

She's a school teacher, so that would be fun.

[west milly Tom]

HEY - she wrote back

"Sorry Celery, you're right. I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

It's weird because we had some fun two weeks ago after our date, so I thought there was a little something there...maybe I'm a bad kisser. Anyways, I feel 100% better now that she told me.

Onward and upward. I have a third date with this other girl Saturday. Any fun date ideas? Maybe I should make her pay.

Thanks for listening, everyone.



One phone call one txt. That's all you put out, what you did is going to end up on her myspace page. Eesh. It sucks not getting a call back, we've all been there, well not me, but you just gotta let it go after one call. And you should wait a couple days even for that call.

[west milly Tom]

attn: commish13



This post got me. Any commish reference makes me laugh. :lol::lol:

[Gvac]

Anyone that does not have the common courtesy or decency of returning a message is not worth your time.

I'm glad she finally did get back to you, but it's ridiculous that you had to brow beat her into it.

I hope it doesn't happen again, but if you do hook up with a loser who doesn't have the confidence to say "sorry, I'm just not interested" cut your losses and move on. There's nothing sadder and more pathetic than someone who doesn't have the balls to say how they feel.

[celery]

One phone call one txt. That's all you put out, what you did is going to end up on her myspace page. Eesh. It sucks not getting a call back, we've all been there, well not me, but you just gotta let it go after one call. And you should wait a couple days even for that call.

Yeah, that's generally the rule I follow, but since we made plans and I hadn't heard back, I waited a week and followed up. Hey, it was a no-win situation, I just felt I deserved some response...and she gave me enough positive signs that I thought she was into me at some point.

[west milly Tom]

Yeah, that's generally the rule I follow, but since we made plans and I hadn't heard back, I waited a week and followed up. Hey, it was a no-win situation, I just felt I deserved some response...



You did deserve a response, especially after 4 dates. I was just unsure you knew the rules of common practice. No harm meant.

[instrument]

I don't know either you or her and I knew what happened...

Maybe you're trying too hard?

And are you sre you're going on dates? Or is thislike earl and these girls don't realize its a date till an awkward kiss at the end?

Just make sure you're on the same page as these girls.

[celery]

I don't know either you or her and I knew what happened...

Maybe you're trying too hard?

And are you sre you're going on dates? Or is thislike earl and these girls don't realize its a date till an awkward kiss at the end?

Just make sure you're on the same page as these girls.

Dinners, movies, (some) romance. Yeah, they're definitely dates - I don't think this is "Black Earl Plus One".

It's possible I am trying to hard, but I just try to be myself - I can carry my end of a conversation. With this girl, I kinda thought she was out of my league, but we did hook up some and she told me she liked hanging out with me. So I figured she was sorta into me and went with it. After our fourth date, she must have decided she didn't want to go further, which is fine.

Like Gvac said, I shouldn't have had to browbeat a response out of her. If I end up on her douche-list on myspace, so be it - I just felt that after spending a couple hundred bucks and four nights of my time on dates, she could take 30 seconds and turn me down.

[MacVittie]

That's just how dating is these days. Anytime I've been pursuing someone and they weren't interested, I've never gotten a concise "I'm just not interested," its always something very wishy-washy or they just stop responding. That's why people love email/AIM/texting/Facebook, you can remove all meaning and feeling from communication. Plus, I'm in my early 20's, so its nearly impossible to try to connect with someone with AIM/texting/Facebook playing a huge part.

[cougarjake13]

HEY - she wrote back

"Sorry Celery, you're right. I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

It's weird because we had some fun two weeks ago after our date, so I thought there was a little something there...maybe I'm a bad kisser. Anyways, I feel 100% better now that she told me.

Onward and upward. I have a third date with this other girl Saturday. Any fun date ideas? Maybe I should make her pay.

Thanks for listening, everyone.

have fun with your search ?? does she treat all her potential bf's like a job search ??

[Foster]

HEY - she wrote back

"Sorry Celery, you're right. I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

It's weird because we had some fun two weeks ago after our date, so I thought there was a little something there...maybe I'm a bad kisser. Anyways, I feel 100% better now that she told me.

Onward and upward. I have a third date with this other girl Saturday. Any fun date ideas? Maybe I should make her pay.

Thanks for listening, everyone.

thats BS! a message like that might be acceptable after a first date, but two weeks!

good luck with the new girl

[celery]

thats BS! a message like that might be acceptable after a first date, but two weeks!

good luck with the new girl

Honestly, I'm fine with the message itself - we met on a dating site, and it's just sort of a standard rejection note. I'm kinda numb to it at this point.

[Foster]

Honestly, I'm fine with the message itself - we met on a dating site, and it's just sort of a standard rejection note.

I do the dating sites too, and I've gotten and given similar messages after the first date, but after two or moe dates its just not appropriate.

but the main thing is you're okay with it

[lleeder]

I do the dating sites too, and I've gotten and given similar messages after the first date, but after two or moe dates its just not appropriate.

but the main thing is you're okay with it

I'm never been on a moe date. Guess your into that.

[RoseBlood]

Celery is kind of wimpy sounding. Change your name to Porterhouse or Angus and the women might respect you more.. just sayin'.

[celery]

OK, off to watch the game dateless, and drink my troubles away!

[lleeder]

OK, off to watch the game dateless, and drink my troubles away!

your friends texted don't bother coming over

[celery]

your friends texted don't bother coming over

I spent all day baking a ziti. Hope people like it

[celery]

So the previous girl and I watched The Pineapple Express, which we rented from Redbox. I accidentally left it at her place, and she said she'd bring it back. Today I found out she never brought it back, and I got hit with a $25 fee and I think she still has the DVD. :wallbash:

[Furtherman]

"Sorry Celery, you're right. I do have fun with you, but I just don't feel that much of a connection. Good luck with your search"

That's good you got an answer. Dating sucks doesn't it?

So the previous girl and I watched The Pineapple Express, which we rented from Redbox. I accidentally left it at her place, and she said she'd bring it back. Today I found out she never brought it back, and I got hit with a $25 fee and I think she still has the DVD. :wallbash:

What the hell is a Redbox and what the hell is a $25 fee? For being late? You should upgrade to Netflix.

[celery]

That's good you got an answer. Dating sucks doesn't it?



What the hell is a Redbox and what the hell is a $25 fee? For being late? You should upgrade to Netflix.

http://tylermuth.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/redbox.jpg

It's actually a pretty cool service - they have them in grocery stores and McDonalds all over the place here. You pick up your DVD for $1 a night, then return it to any location. If you don't return it for 25 days, they charge you $25 and you keep it. Which it looks like she did, or at least forgot to return it...

[Furtherman]

If you don't return it for 25 days, they charge you $25 and you keep it.

Well then I hope you get that DVD back!

[celery]

Well then I hope you get that DVD back!

No kidding, I'm gonna call her about it...

I once made the mistake of lending The Office (UK) Series One to a girl, then breaking up with her a few weeks later. She eventually did send it back to me, but it was missing one of the DVDs...

Dating sucks doesn't it?

Yep

[hammersavage]

She called you Celery?

Always pay. Go through life being a gentleman and you will be rewarded.

[west milly Tom]

She called you Celery?

Always pay. Go through life being a gentleman and you will be rewarded.



Agreed.

[donnie_darko]

this thread is really funny.
thank you celery.

do you ever wonder why these women seem to hold you in such low regard? Seriously?

[celery]

She called you Celery?

Always pay. Go through life being a gentleman and you will be rewarded.

Agreed.

Yeah, I don't have much problem doing it. I think it's kind of a bad sign if they won't let you pay.

[celery]

this thread is really funny.
thank you celery.

do you ever wonder why these women seem to hold you in such low regard? Seriously?

It's really only one I've mentioned who has.

[celery]

I've come up with a naming convention, so those of you following along at home can keep things straight.

Polly - the first girl mentioned in this thread, out of the picture now. She's about 5'10, with heels on she's about as tall as me (I'm 6'1).

Palin - The girl I was seeing until about three weeks ago. She's out of town for six months on work, neither of us had much interest in a long-distance thing, so we "put things on hold". Not sure if we'll pick things up again, though we got along pretty well and our friends seemed to like each other. She's also the source of the Redbox controversy above.

Charlotte - The one I have plans to see on Saturday, and I still need to figure out something to do with. She mentioned that The Dark Knight is playing in IMAX near her and she hadn't seen it. I can't figure out if that's a good date idea, or a little on the geeky side.

[vjr97]

four dinner dates no sex? dam u suck.but i feel 4 u.just move on to the next girl.try to pick them little sluttier next time.their a lot more fun.

[CYYYFYYY]

4 dinner dates... she should call and say not interested, but who knows with these damn HU-mans

[Sinestro]

I've come up with a naming convention, so those of you following along at home can keep things straight.

Polly - the first girl mentioned in this thread, out of the picture now. She's about 5'10, with heels on she's about as tall as me (I'm 6'1). I don't you remembering mentioning her. Is this the 4 dates girl or Palin?

Palin - The girl I was seeing until about three weeks ago. She's out of town for six months on work, neither of us had much interest in a long-distance thing, so we "put things on hold". Not sure if we'll pick things up again, though we got along pretty well and our friends seemed to like each other. She's also the source of the Redbox controversy above. Is this the had a good time, texting, not going to the Superbowl with you chic?? You went out on like 4 dates?

Charlotte - The one I have plans to see on Saturday, and I still need to figure out something to do with. She mentioned that The Dark Knight is playing in IMAX near her and she hadn't seen it. I can't figure out if that's a good date idea, or a little on the geeky side. This is the chic you were keeping on the side as a plan b right?



It's getting confusing.

[celery]

Polly - the first girl mentioned in this thread, out of the picture now. She's about 5'10, with heels on she's about as tall as me (I'm 6'1). I don't you remembering mentioning her. Is this the 4 dates girl or Palin?


This is the 4 dates, had a good time, texting, not going to the Superbowl with me chic.


Palin - The girl I was seeing until about three weeks ago. She's out of town for six months on work, neither of us had much interest in a long-distance thing, so we "put things on hold". Not sure if we'll pick things up again, though we got along pretty well and our friends seemed to like each other. She's also the source of the Redbox controversy above. Is this the had a good time, texting, not going to the Superbowl with you chic?? You went out on like 4 dates?
No, I didn't mention Palin until this morning.


Charlotte - The one I have plans to see on Saturday, and I still need to figure out something to do with. She mentioned that The Dark Knight is playing in IMAX near her and she hadn't seen it. I can't figure out if that's a good date idea, or a little on the geeky side. This is the chic you were keeping on the side as a plan b right?


You got it - she's the only one who's really in play at this point...


It's getting confusing.


Yeah, if any more pop up, I'll assign them names right away.

[SP1!]

I say if charlotte doesnt give up the balloon knot and you reach $300 spent on dates then you ditch her as well.

[celery]

I say if charlotte doesnt give up the balloon knot and you reach $300 spent on dates then you ditch her as well.

She's from Jersey - does that help my chances?

[hammersavage]

She's from Jersey - does that help my chances?

Oh my god yes. Especially if its near Philly.

[boonanas]

This thread has been COMMISH13'd.

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[LaBoob]

This thread has been COMMISH13'd.

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:clap: tee hee

[celery]

This thread has been COMMISH13'd.

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eww

[west milly Tom]

This thread has been COMMISH13'd.

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:lol::lol::lol:
Awesome.

[RoseBlood]

This thread has been COMMISH13'd.

I wish I had been warned before opening this thread. :nono::thumbdown:http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sick009.gif

*edit* that picture should be linked "nsfw".

[mikeyboy]

Thread moved to That's Life forum.

[west milly Tom]

Thread moved to That's Life forum.

Why ruin the fun?

[midwestjeff]

Why ruin the fun?

It's his job.

[celery]

Why ruin the fun?

I asked him to move it - I thought it would be a better place for this thread.

I fully expect to be goofed on - it comes with the territory when you put yourself out here like this. But I'm genuinely looking for some constructive criticism because I'd like to improve my situation. Thanks to everyone who's chipped in so far...

[boosterp]

Wish I could help more. I tried dating for 3 months after a year off and then gave up again. I am not a bad looking guy, fairly intelligent, but suck at meeting people.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I asked him to move it - I thought it would be a better place for this thread.

I fully expect to be goofed on - it comes with the territory when you put yourself out here like this. But I'm genuinely looking for some constructive criticism because I'd like to improve my situation. Thanks to everyone who's chipped in so far...

You have killed your thread by moving it to this forum. I personally can't give you advice without busting your balls, honestly. My constructive criticism would be that you need to not take this stage of your dating life so seriously.

[celery]

You have killed your thread by moving it to this forum. I personally can't give you advice without busting your balls, honestly. My constructive criticism would be that you need to not take this stage of your dating life so seriously.

I've seen plenty of helpful threads in this forum, so I think it'll be fine here.

And maybe I do take it seriously - it's just hard to struggle and something for months and have it not get much better.

[celery]

Wish I could help more. I tried dating for 3 months after a year off and then gave up again. I am not a bad looking guy, fairly intelligent, but suck at meeting people.

Same here.

Yeah, if things don't fly with Charlotte, I'm getting a mail order bride.

[mdr55]

Same here.

Yeah, if things don't fly with Charlotte, I'm getting a mail order bride.

Make sure she doesn't float away.

[celery]

Make sure she doesn't float away.

I'm a good 2 hours from the ocean.

[celery]

I've really been in bad place for a while, and I don't think it's healthy for me to post here anymore.

Take care, everyone.