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Dougie Brootal
01-22-2009, 12:59 PM
hes going to paris next week for business and he just randomly popped into my office and said "If something happens to me, I want to assure you that you will be financially taken care of, I want my funeral to be at the Mount Carmel Monastery, and I want to be cremated... I dont want anybody lookin at me!"
and walked out.
just kind of upset me. dont really know what to say.
Fezticle98
01-22-2009, 01:00 PM
That's reassuring, in a way...
Tall_James
01-22-2009, 01:01 PM
That's odd.
santino
01-22-2009, 01:03 PM
i think the important thing here is... PARTY AT YOUR DAD'S HOUSE!
seriously, i think people tend to just start thinking about shit like their mortality when they get older.
Aggie
01-22-2009, 01:09 PM
It's always weird having the "death" talk with our parents but at least he said something albeit in an odd way. Would you have known any of that if he didn't say it?
I'm glad my dad told me last year about this life insurance policy they have that will lapse if ONE payment is missed. If they ever became senile or went into a coma or even died I wouldn't know that and we would lose all the insurance money.
It sucks talking about this stuff but it's responsible.
Judge Smails
01-22-2009, 01:13 PM
Does he not like to fly? Does he fly often? How often does he fly transatlantic? Maybe the whole US Air thing has him spooked.
Dude!
01-22-2009, 01:17 PM
hes going to paris next week for business and he just randomly popped into my office and said "If something happens to me, I want to assure you that you will be financially taken care of, I want my funeral to be at the Mount Carmel Monastery, and I want to be cremated... I dont want anybody lookin at me!"
and walked out.
just kind of upset me. dont really know what to say.
why does your dad feel he has to take care of you financially?
cant you take care of yourself?
do you have a physical or learning disability or something?
joethebartender
01-22-2009, 01:18 PM
Did he then say: "allahu akhbar"?
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Jughead
01-22-2009, 01:18 PM
hes going to paris next week for business and he just randomly popped into my office and said "If something happens to me, I want to assure you that you will be financially taken care of, I want my funeral to be at the Mount Carmel Monastery, and I want to be cremated... I dont want anybody lookin at me!"
and walked out.
just kind of upset me. dont really know what to say.
Maybe he is just thinking ....Knows he can talk to you ...Kinda cool he can be so honest and up front with you...I don't know but going over seas would make me say something to my son's just in case...
Dougie Brootal
01-22-2009, 01:19 PM
It's always weird having the "death" talk with our parents but at least he said something albeit in an odd way. Would you have known any of that if he didn't say it?
I'm glad my dad told me last year about this life insurance policy they have that will lapse if ONE payment is missed. If they ever became senile or went into a coma or even died I wouldn't know that and we would lose all the insurance money.
It sucks talking about this stuff but it's responsible.
no i didnt know any of that.
Does he not like to fly? Does he fly often? How often does he fly transatlantic? Maybe the whole US Air thing has him spooked.
he flys all the time. it doesnt bother him at all. he loves it.
i dont know it just seemed weird. i guess cuz i went to a funeral today so maybe i just thought it was weirder than it is, but i was fuckin weird.
weird.
Dougie Brootal
01-22-2009, 01:22 PM
why does your dad feel he has to take care of you financially?
cant you take care of yourself?
do you have a physical or learning disability or something?
i dont know.
im not disabled but you cant tell that by some of my posts.
tanless1
01-22-2009, 01:39 PM
should of asked him if preferred medium or welldone ? mequite or regular ?
so many ive known maintian a simmering dissdain for thier parents out of fear of a relaitionship.... your a lucky guy. as he is lucky to have you.
CofyCrakCocaine
01-22-2009, 02:02 PM
Maybe your dad just hates thinking about the death subject and decided to have the talk as he was leaving so he could concentrate on the trip immediately and not have a chance to think too long on that unpleasant subject. Dunno, that's why I woulda done that.
Tenbatsuzen
01-22-2009, 03:08 PM
I hate to say it, if his plane crashes on the way to France, there ain't gonna be a body to worry about cremating.
DiabloSammich
01-22-2009, 03:09 PM
I hate to say it, if his plane crashes on the way to France, there ain't gonna be a body to worry about cremating.
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Dougie Brootal
01-22-2009, 03:32 PM
Did I miss the very special RonFez.net episode, where 2009 Matty rides off in the sunset?
hahaha!
i dont think hes worried about a crash. i dunno. he is pretty old and he always says morbid shit like that. i think it was just weird today cuz of the funeral.
brettmojo
01-22-2009, 03:38 PM
hes going to paris next week for business and he just randomly popped into my office and said "If something happens to me, I want to assure you that you will be financially taken care of, I want my funeral to be at the Mount Carmel Monastery, and I want to be cremated... I dont want anybody lookin at me!"
and walked out.
just kind of upset me. dont really know what to say.
He's James Bond.
boosterp
01-22-2009, 04:49 PM
When Somalia was happening I had that conversation with my parents, it scared the shit out of them. Then we went on 24 hr alert and phone calls etc was restricted so they could not reach me.
Then in 96 Sadam was screwing around mobilizing close to the boarder of Kuwait and we went on alert again, no calling the parents.
When everything returned to normal that was the longest conversations I have ever had with my parents.
Death Metal Moe
01-22-2009, 05:46 PM
Everyone dies, some people are a little more able to talk about their mortality than others. Maybe he just had a moment of clarity where he wanted to tell you something very important and wasn't able to until that moment. I guess the trip and the plane reminded him of his mortality and he wanted to have that talk with ya.
hes going to paris next week for business and he just randomly popped into my office and said "If something happens to me, I want to assure you that you will be financially taken care of, I want my funeral to be at the Mount Carmel Monastery, and I want to be cremated... I dont want anybody lookin at me!"
and walked out.
Your dad sounds like the coolest motherfucker on the planet.
Can I hang with him?
drusilla
01-22-2009, 06:11 PM
every time i watch a tv show or a movie with my mom that has someone in a vegetative state she always tells me she'd want me to pull the plug. EVERY TIME!
i do know she has life insurance, but my brother the lawyer handles that stuff. & she already put her house in my name for " just incase." she's ridiculously morbid. always has been.
i'm guessing your dad probably brought it up because of the funeral today. since funerals & death tends to get a lot of people thinking about their own mortality.
WampusCrandle
01-22-2009, 06:19 PM
my dad recently gave me a "talk". i left feeling so vulnerable and in a state of "did that just happen to me?" he sat me down and told me to go to three different family friends and two of his business friends that i have never even met before if something happens to him. it was just awful. and now, i have to meet with his two business friends and i can't imagine the lunch that i am going to have to have with them. oh well, sorry it freaked you out, Dougie Brootal.
Slumbag
01-23-2009, 02:22 AM
It's always weird having the "death" talk with our parents but at least he said something albeit in an odd way. Would you have known any of that if he didn't say it?
I'm glad my dad told me last year about this life insurance policy they have that will lapse if ONE payment is missed. If they ever became senile or went into a coma or even died I wouldn't know that and we would lose all the insurance money.
It sucks talking about this stuff but it's responsible.
My parents talk about that to me and my sister all the time. I know that if my dad dies, I gotta get him cremated and go to this creek in PA where he grew up and sprinkle the ashes there. It's not a big deal.
Last Christmas, we were picking out guys for my mom to marry if my dad died. My suggestion was "Broadway" Joe Naimith. My mom got angry, and said "someone more like Richard Gere". Then my dad got all pissed, cause Richard Gere is a "Nancy".
I told my folks something similar before I came here: basically where my will and other important documents are, and the relatives of mine who are not to get a cent of my money. My mother thought it odd/morbid as well but I told her that I'd rather have her know where things are rather than have her be confused and stressed in her time of grief.
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