Worried about my ex

[CYYYFYYY]

My ex who I have not talked to in about 2 months now I guess…..Well I was going to donate some money to her for the Avon Cancer Walk which she does every year. I see she did not do it this year. I am worried but I can’t call her or anything. She made it clear that me talking to her only gets her upset about herself. It sucks to worry about someone and you can’t do anything. I know there is something wrong. I just feel helpless. I know there are no answers to this one. Guess it is a vent or something.

[JPMNICK]

i am worried about you and how 2 months later of a girl telling you she wants no contact you know she did not walk this weekend in a cancer walk.

Maybe she just did not raise enough money or had other obligations. the point is that it should not be your concern anymore. got to let shit go

[Don Stugots]

move on. even if something is wrong, so what, what are you going to do? save her?

[FezsAssistant]

who cares? maybe she realized the money doesn't do any good.
the corportations and the government won't let us cure cancer maaaaaaaaaaaaaan!

[Furtherman]

She is not thinking about you. She didn't walk. So what.

Move on quickly before you make a date with your younger self that involves a serious cringe cleansing beat down.

[Sinestro]

move on. even if something is wrong, so what, what are you going to do? save her?


QFT. move on. And if she was doing this thing, I'm sure she would have contacted you about a donation IF SHE WANTED TO. But she didn't. Get a clue.

[CYYYFYYY]

Gotcha, someone who does the cancer walk every year, (And it means a damn lot to her) does not do it and I should ignore the fact. Yep I know I am not in position to help and frankly I totally forgot about it until I saw the walkers in the street. So yea I will worry but I won;t do anything but saying I should not worry abut someone I once cared for just isn't my style. I would be worried about anyone I knew who did something charitable every year and then stopped. And just in case if you were wondering when I was going to donate the money I was not going to do it under my name.

[Furtherman]

Just because you still care doesn't make you look any more caring, honorable or better in her mind. How do you know she didn't walk? The fact that you know that would be against her wishes. She doesn't want you to know. Saying that you still care, and telling everyone, only makes you look one way: foolish.

And no one was wondering about any donation. That just speaks to you trying to look "caring".

[Don Stugots]

i have a lot of ex's. ex wife #2's dad died after we were split up and i heard about it through work, since him and I worked together. Did I go? Did I call? No. Know why? Because that part of my life was over and those people we no longer my concern. Move on and stop trying to convince yourself of anything else.

[EliSnow]

This worry that there is something wrong with her appears to stem from your belief that she didn't walk in the Cancer Walk. How do you know that she didn't walk in it?

[Knowledged_one]

Gotcha, someone who does the cancer walk every year, (And it means a damn lot to her) does not do it and I should ignore the fact. Yep I know I am not in position to help and frankly I totally forgot about it until I saw the walkers in the street. So yea I will worry but I won;t do anything but saying I should not worry abut someone I once cared for just isn't my style. I would be worried about anyone I knew who did something charitable every year and then stopped. And just in case if you were wondering when I was going to donate the money I was not going to do it under my name.

You are teetering on the edge of being caring guy and creepy stalker guy. Its her life not yours so let her live it as she sees fit even if that means not doing some cancer walk one year, and the fact that you know she didnt walk in it is even creepier.

Let her worry about her, and you worry about you

[Dougie Brootal]

:unsure:

[CYYYFYYY]

I knew becuase it takes all about 10 seconds to donate money. You type in the persons name and then you can donate it. I typed her name. It said she did not walk.

[EliSnow]

I knew becuase it takes all about 10 seconds to donate money. You type in the persons name and then you can donate it. I typed her name. It said she did not walk.

And don't you think it's a little creepy to seek to donate to her, even if you were going to use another name? If you really wanted to donate money, just donate an amount directly to a charity.

To try to donate an amount tied to her is maintaining a contact with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you, regardless of whether you do it anonymously or not.

Doing it anonymously just means that she won't catch you doing it. It doesn't mean that the underlying action is the right one. An analagous situation (though admittedly mcuh creepier than this one) would be a stalker videotaping someone and say well, she'll never know because the camera is really well hidden. It doesn't change the fact that the action is wrong.

[CYYYFYYY]

I totally understand how this could sound creepy but this is how it happened

I saw some walkers doing the Avon Cancer walk
I thught of my ex who does this every year and she always says how much she wants to raise
I went on the sight attempted to donate money to her but saw she was not in it
Donated money anyway and was worried about her
I openly said I am not calling her or anything and I just said I was worried and felt bad I could not do anything. I am worried becuase I fear she is very depressed and not doing the cancer walk is a sign that her deperssion MAY be worse.

[Knowledged_one]

I totally understand how this could sound creepy but this is how it happened

I saw some walkers doing the Avon Cancer walk
I thught of my ex who does this every year and she always says how much she wants to raise
I went on the sight attempted to donate money to her but saw she was not in it
Donated money anyway and was worried about her
I openly said I am not calling her or anything and I just said I was worried and felt bad I could not do anything. I am worried becuase I fear she is very depressed and not doing the cancer walk is a sign that her deperssion MAY be worse.

so now you are a psychiatrist, im sorry but you are not putting yourself in the best of lights here. How do you make the leap because she didn't do the cancer walk to now she is depressed especially since you havent had contact with her in 2 months

Dude you arent her knight in shining armor, she has moved on you havent and you need to for your own mental health and well being (and no im not a psychiatrist)

[EliSnow]

I totally understand how this could sound creepy but this is how it happened

I saw some walkers doing the Avon Cancer walk
I thught of my ex who does this every year and she always says how much she wants to raise
I went on the sight attempted to donate money to her but saw she was not in it
Donated money anyway and was worried about her
I openly said I am not calling her or anything and I just said I was worried and felt bad I could not do anything. I am worried becuase I fear she is very depressed and not doing the cancer walk is a sign that her deperssion MAY be worse.

Again, why look to donate money to her? Given her previous comments about how she doesn't want contact with you, do you think that she wants you to donate money to her? The fact that you looked to donate money to her is the problem area.

Again, the anonymous thing doesn't make it better. It just means you were planning on doing it in a way so you wouldn't get caught.

[CYYYFYYY]

I would argue more but I am a big believer if everyone is saying you are wrong and you say youa re right.... then chances are you are wrong..... I am worried becuase the reason why we broke up was because she was depressed and not think it was right for her to be in a relationship so I am not stretching to say she may have not done this because she was depressed. (Who knows she could have just sprained her ankle). Regardless everyone agrees including me that there is nothing that I can do or the fact that I should do anything. So at least we agree on that.

[Don Stugots]

or she could have just not felt like walking this year. whatever her reasons they are hers. move on.

[red_red_red]

or she could have just not felt like walking this year. whatever her reasons they are hers. moveon.org.
fixed

[DOHO@HOME]

Maybe go to a sporting event and have a message put up on the jumbotron.

Worried EX wondering about depressed use to walk for cancer Hosp doing ok please call me or something:lol:
Fuck off bitch we get it you need attention now take a walk get to steppin Sally:clap:

[Knowledged_one]

Maybe go to a sporting event and have a message put up on the jumbotron.

Worried EX wondering about depressed use to walk for cancer Hosp doing ok please call me or something:lol:
Fuck off bitch we get it you need attention now take a walk get to steppin Sally:clap:

Do you not get the purpose of this forum? While some of us may come off as harsh none of us doing this as personal attacks which you definetly are. I believe this is not the purpose of this forum

[Dougie Brootal]

Maybe go to a sporting event and have a message put up on the jumbotron.

Worried EX wondering about depressed use to walk for cancer Hosp doing ok please call me or something:lol:
Fuck off bitch we get it you need attention now take a walk get to steppin Sally:clap:

dude, it is still the "THATS LIFE" forum.

[KatPw]

I knew becuase it takes all about 10 seconds to donate money. You type in the persons name and then you can donate it. I typed her name. It said she did not walk.

Maybe she planned a vacation and didn't realize it would be the same weekend, maybe she was working, had a wedding/christening/funeral to attend. Maybe she had a cold. There could be a million reasons she did not walk, none of which should be your concern. This makes you sound like a creepy stalker.

[donnie_darko]

so you dont know any of her friends?
her myspace facebook etc?
no one you could simply ask?

[DOHO@HOME]

Ok I guess I'm the not get the forum guy so I will just say two words.
Fuck off

[KingGeno]

You have to grow up and move on. Ya sound awful with your description about your ex. She is an ex for a reason, and there are millions and millions of other women out there. I don't fuckin' get how men get hung up on women and vice-versa.

[debit]

She's probably having so much sex with some guy who is better looking, more interesting, richer, taller, has better hair, drives race cars in Italy, volunteers to feed the homeless, that she can barely walk.



Seriously there is more fish in the sea and it is time for you to go fishing.

If fishing is difficult for you then get a fish to massage you and pay the extra $100.

[Knowledged_one]

Ok I guess I'm the not get the forum guy so I will just say two words.
Fuck off

Good one Potsie, first you try horrible schtick that nobody found funny, and then when people tell you, you are in the wrong you tell us to Fuck off

Real mature

[DOHO@HOME]

She's probably having so much sex with some guy who is better looking, more interesting, richer, taller, has better hair, drives race cars in Italy, volunteers to feed the homeless, that she can barely walk.



Seriously there is more fish in the sea and it is time for you to go fishing.

If fishing is difficult for you then get a fish to massage you and pay the extra $100.

Hey you better watch what you post they will teach you a thing or two about feeling.

[Dougie Brootal]

Hey you better watch what you post they will teach you a thing or two about feeling.

youre a fucking moron.

[DOHO@HOME]

Good one Potsie, first you try horrible schtick that nobody found funny, and then when people tell you, you are in the wrong you tell us to Fuck off

Real mature

I don't fuckin care if you think it's funny or not :furious:I'm only hear to entertain myself and could give two shits how you or anyone else feels about me and my post.
Words can't hurt me what ever you say bounces of me and sticks to you:laugh:

[Knowledged_one]

youre a fucking moron.

X 100^100

Doug bringing the common sense since going straight

[Dougie Brootal]

X 100^100

Doug bringing the common sense since going straight

:thumbup:

[mikeyboy]

Seriously. This particular forum is not for that kind of thing. Respect that or move on.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

I don't fuckin care if you think it's funny or not :furious:I'm only hear to entertain myself and could give two shits how you or anyone else feels about me and my post.
Words can't hurt me what ever you say bounces of me and sticks to you:laugh:


dude u can insult whomever you want, but the mods don't like it in this forum

simple rules, having a blow up here gets you banned

[Knowledged_one]

I don't fuckin care if you think it's funny or not :furious:I'm only hear to entertain myself and could give two shits how you or anyone else feels about me and my post.
Words can't hurt me what ever you say bounces of me and sticks to you:laugh:

Entertain yourself is fine but you have to follow the rules which people try to point out to you and you ignore

So enjoy being the ignorant dont get it guy, it seems like its worked well for you so far

[Dougie Brootal]

Words can't hurt me what ever you say bounces of me and sticks to you:laugh:

i just wanna make sure everyone caught this part...:lol:

"its like he's fucking 5!"
http://static.flickr.com/44/171225016_816f450de9.jpg

[Knowledged_one]

i just wanna make sure everyone caught this part...:lol:

"its like he's fucking 5!"
http://static.flickr.com/44/171225016_816f450de9.jpg

im surprised i didnt get a

"your mom wears combat boots"

[DOHO@HOME]

:surrender:

[Freitag]

To be honest?

You wonder why people think you're creepy?

This is it.

You're borderline stalking at this point. Let it go.



Doing the walk is very important to Liz. She almost pulled out because we just bought a house and we couldn't make the donations.

Sutff comes up. Let it go. She's your ex for a reason.

[red_red_red]

Maybe she planned a vacation and didn't realize it would be the same weekend, maybe she was working, had a wedding/christening/funeral to attend. Maybe she had a cold. There could be a million reasons she did not walk, none of which should be your concern. This makes you sound like a creepy stalker.
this? http://farm1.static.flickr.com/86/236495821_9cf59a2bca.jpg?v=0

[CYYYFYYY]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum. I worry about someone who I have made no contact in 2 months and I am a stalker. Not sure how that works. Again I thank the people who actually do care but sadly.... a good percent just want to call me a pussy, and crap. I thought of writing something longer but I am not going to add fuel to the fire.

[Knowledged_one]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum. I worry about someone who I have made no contact in 2 months and I am a stalker. Not sure how that works. Again I thank the people who actually do care but sadly.... a good percent just want to call me a pussy, and crap. I thought of writing something longer but I am not going to add fuel to the fire.

I think your expectation were that everyone would agree with you and that isnt the case and everyone disagrees with you

If no one agrees with what you say maybe its time to look in the mirror and say its me not them

Sorry none of us validated you like you obviously wanted

[Fezticle98]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum. I worry about someone who I have made no contact in 2 months and I am a stalker. Not sure how that works. Again I thank the people who actually do care but sadly.... a good percent just want to call me a pussy, and crap. I thought of writing something longer but I am not going to add fuel to the fire.

Left what forum? That's Life?

Surely you do not refer to rf.net which is seeing big growth (even if much of it is on the backs of those dirty FBAers. :unsure:

[Freitag]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum. I worry about someone who I have made no contact in 2 months and I am a stalker. Not sure how that works. Again I thank the people who actually do care but sadly.... a good percent just want to call me a pussy, and crap. I thought of writing something longer but I am not going to add fuel to the fire.

Here's how it works.

She's an ex.

You've had no contact with her.

Why were you giving her money for the walk? Obviously, to either try and get back into her good graces, be a presence in her life when she's told you she doesn't want you to be there, or a myriad of other reasons.

There were at least two other people on this forum who did the Avon Walk this year, and publicized it (so don't use the excuse that the money was going to a good cause. If you had money burning a hole in your pocket, you could have EASILY given it to Hosp or the community than someone you've had no contact with in 2 months.

That's how it works. That's why it's moving on.

And actually, people haven't LEFT this forum. If anything, it's grown.

[red_red_red]

Left what forum? That's Life?

Surely you do not refer to rf.net which is seeing big growth (even if much of it is on the backs of those dirty FBAers. :unsure:
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/finger007.gif

[ChrisTheCop]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum. I worry about someone who I have made no contact in 2 months and I am a stalker. Not sure how that works. Again I thank the people who actually do care but sadly.... a good percent just want to call me a pussy, and crap. I thought of writing something longer but I am not going to add fuel to the fire.

Ya know what? I have an ex who is a cop in another precinct; a very dangerous precinct.
Whenever I hear about something happening there, I do indeed immediately think about her, worry about her, and hope she's alright. We seem to be on better terms than you and your ex; if I cant find out what happened, I'll text her to ask if she's ok.

My point is, I understand the need to want to keep in touch, and I think it's normal. You cared about this person deeply, and it's incredibly hard to not worry about them.

However, in your situation, this chick has said that she'd rather not keep in touch, right?
Youve got to respect her wishes, and try your best not to care...or at least not to go out of your way to be reminded of her. We've all had that ex that just didnt get it, that we wanted nothing to do with them, and yet they kept on calling...I'm not saying thats how she feels, but imagine it is, do you really wanna be that guy?

Good luck budday!

[Freitag]

Ya know what? I have an ex who is a cop in another precinct; a very dangerous precinct.
Whenever I hear about something happening there, I do indeed immediately think about her, worry about her, and hope she's alright. We seem to be on better terms than you and your ex; if I cant find out what happened, I'll text her to ask if she's ok.

My point is, I understand the need to want to keep in touch, and I think it's normal. You cared about this person deeply, and it's incredibly hard to not worry about them.

However, in your situation, this chick has said that she'd rather not keep in touch, right?
Youve got to respect her wishes, and try your best not to care...or at least not to go out of your way to be reminded of her. We've all had that ex that just didnt get it, that we wanted nothing to do with them, and yet they kept on calling...I'm not saying thats how she feels, but imagine it is, do you really wanna be that guy?

Good luck budday!

Chris is like me, but with more tact and less hair.

[mikeyboy]

Chris is like me, but with more tact and less hair.

Lots more and much less. :)

[Dougie Brootal]

Lots more and much less. :)

ZING!

[Don Stugots]

GET OVER IT! forget she exists.

[Knowledged_one]

Lots more and much less. :)

Mikey gave matty the old

Zoom, Zoom, Zoom

[Dougie Brootal]

Mikey gave matty the old

Vroom, Vroom

ew.

[Don Stugots]

Now I know why so many people have left this forum.

yes, this is why. you are correct.

[skyscraper]

GET OVER IT! forget she exists.

easier said than done. I still think about a girl I broke up with in 1989. I don't obsess about her, but she crosses my mind every now and again.

[Freitag]

easier said than done. I still think about a girl I broke up with in 1989. I don't obsess about her, but she crosses my mind every now and again.

There's a difference between THAT (I think ex's cross the mind of everyone once in a while) and getting involved with a girlfriend fresh off a breakup in a transparent attempt to still be a part of her life.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

The best medicine is emotional amputation. She got a part of your heart? Cut it off. It's just weighing you down and making you look bad.

I'm sure alot of the folks around here think that's not healthy, but that's what you do with cancerous body parts. The alternative can be pretty ugly.

[zildjian361]

she's your EX stop making excuses to yourself to get back into her life.:bye:

[K.C.]

i have a lot of ex's. ex wife #2's dad died after we were split up and i heard about it through work, since him and I worked together. Did I go? Did I call? No. Know why? Because that part of my life was over and those people we no longer my concern. Move on and stop trying to convince yourself of anything else.

I bow to your superior wisdom, Don Stugots.

A'...grazie!

http://basetta.pupazzo.org/site_media/postings/godfather.jpg



I actually just found myself moments ago kind of daydreaming (only at night) about an ex, and was actually a little concerned when I realized how long it'd been since I last talked to her (because she's crazy...no doubt she's into something stupid).

...so when I saw this thread, I had to click.



Good call on the way these things should be dealt with.

[Sinestro]

My ex who I have not talked to in about 2 months now I guess…..Well I was going to donate some money to her for the Avon Cancer Walk which she does every year. I see she did not do it this year. I am worried but I can’t call her or anything. She made it clear that me talking to her only gets her upset about herself. It sucks to worry about someone and you can’t do anything. I know there is something wrong. I just feel helpless. I know there are no answers to this one. Guess it is a vent or something.


Do you have mutual friends that you can fish for some answers?

I too worry about my ex from time to time, but then again, she's better off without me and I'm better off without her. If's she's happy, I'm happy for her. If she's sad, I'm sad for her......but it ends there. I don't go out of my way to find out how she's doing......even though I'm good friends with the family. She got her life and I got my life. We've both moved on.

[Hottub]

Ex's do indeed serve a purpose. I still use this one nympho-freak for jacking.
And I KNOW it don't make me a bad person.
Oofah. What a rack! Couldn't get enough o' the dick.:thumbup:

[skyscraper]

Ex's do indeed serve a purpose. I still use this one nympho-freak for jacking.
And I KNOW it don't make me a bad person.
Oofah. What a rack! Couldn't get enough o' the dick.:thumbup:

Agreed, they serve a purpose. My ex went to high school with my wife, and when one of their reunions came up, I lost 40 pounds on the off-chance I would run into here there. She did not show, but I am 40 pounds the healthier for it.
Well, maybe it's only 20 now....