People who tell you you are fat

[sr71blackbird]

I have noticed a new thing since I gained some weight.
Some people have a round about way of letting you know that they noticed you gained weight.
I have heard this a few times in the past week or so from different people.

They will come to me and say "Hey, are you losing weight?"
When I say "No, in fact I gained weight" they say "Oh, I didnt want to say anything..."

Why do people feel the need to let you know that they notice you gained weight?

Do you let people know that you notice it? How would you react if it was you?

[Marc with a c]

that sounds like a problem for fat people

[sr71blackbird]

How'd you guess?

[outlawfrank]

I blossomed to 260, normally I'm 210. When friends asked if I gained any weight, accentuated by the double chin. I told them "yes I gained weight, I stopped doin' blow two months ago." Usually makes them feel as uncomfortable as me.

[~Katja~]

always pick on fat people...
the ones with a sense of humor about it are the best.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

people who use fat jokes against me are usually mentally beat , I have so many flaws that if you call me fat, you are either dumb or mentally beat

exception is marc, he just does it to hurt

[topless_mike]

the "yeah, i know. but i can lose weight. whats your excuse" line usually get's em

[WhistlePig]

Why do people do that? My husband gained weight after I had our daughter (18 mos ago) and though I've been tempted to say something a few times I've bitten my tongue because I know he knows he's gained weight and me saying something is not going to help anything except to make him feel bad. Anyone wanting to say something to somebody has to realize THEY ALREADY KNOW!!! It just makes things worse to point out the obvious. Fuck these fuckers saying stuff to you. They just want to feel superior or something.

[sr71blackbird]

I agree 100% and dont know why people have to say anything, let alone something as deceptive as that. Why ask if I lost weight, when it is obvious I gained??
It really makes me feel bad and ashamed, but the reason I posted was because of what I feel is a new trend as a method of approach to the subject.

[Dougie Brootal]

i would only mention something like that to a close buddy i could bust balls with. and only in a funny way. why is it anyone elses business?

[cougarjake13]

i wasnt necessarily called fat

but tonight i made 2 orders of aussie cheese fries from outback for me and the wife and the dude on the phone goes

having a healthy night huh

[SatCam]

did you know youre fat? just thought id let you know

[Friday]

i recently gained back about 30 lbs of what i had lost a couple of years ago.
i can easily blame the stress with being the only person handling my moms estate, or the breakup of a relationship ... but i know i am in control of my life.

but not one of my friends who i express this to has agreed with me. they all say... 'you look great!' or ... ' you are beautiful'.
i was blessed with a good face and, Thank God, for being proportional... but i Know when my body needs work.

so i have the opposite issue, i guess lol

[jonyrotn]

I wasnt necessarily called fat, but tonight i made 2 orders of aussie cheese fries from outback for me and the wife and the dude on the phone goes having a healthy night huh

There's a "fat wife" joke in there somewhere, but I'm not even gonna look for it because tonight's about healing..Hug me..

[ChrisTheCop]

(I toyed with starting a new thread, but it works better as a response I think).

The difference is, your FRIENDS will skirt the issue and try to be kind about being overweight.

But STRANGERS will comment on a guy being bald. Total strangers will comment on the fact a guy has no hair, and everyone will laugh...but if someone (and I guess it happens occasionally) says, "wow! that guy over there is huge!" Others will say, "shhh...he'll hear you".

[Enabler]

i wasnt necessarily called fat

but tonight i made 2 orders of aussie cheese fries from outback for me and the wife and the dude on the phone goes

having a healthy night huh


Holy Shit!! That is so over the line. What a jerk. I would have wanted to ask for a manager...but I wouldnt have.

[sailor]

people who use fat jokes against me are usually mentally beat , I have so many flaws that if you call me fat, you are either dumb or mentally beat

exception is marc, he just does it to hurt

me?

[jonyrotn]

(I toyed with starting a new thread, but it works better as a response I think).
The difference is, your FRIENDS will skirt the issue and try to be kind about being overweight.
But STRANGERS will comment on a guy being bald. Total strangers will comment on the fact a guy has no hair, and everyone will laugh...but if someone (and I guess it happens occasionally) says, "wow! that guy over there is huge!" Others will say, "shhh...he'll hear you".
That's a good point, Total double standard...Same goes for short people (they even sing songs about it)..

[Ritalin]

Why do people do that? My husband gained weight after I had our daughter (18 mos ago) and though I've been tempted to say something a few times I've bitten my tongue because I know he knows he's gained weight and me saying something is not going to help anything except to make him feel bad. Anyone wanting to say something to somebody has to realize THEY ALREADY KNOW!!! It just makes things worse to point out the obvious. Fuck these fuckers saying stuff to you. They just want to feel superior or something.

WhistlePig is a chick?

(I really have to start paying attention.)

(I heard her husband is fat)

[SatCam]

WhistlePig is a chick?

(I really have to start paying attention.)

(I heard her husband is fat)

shhhhh,,, he might hear you :sleep:

[mugby43]

assholes strike out to hurt others thinking they will fele better about for thier own faults. It only hurts you and them. what a waste. Forgive both them and yourself and do better tomorrow

[FUNKMAN]

touchy subject, especially with females. no matter how nicely you address it and with the 'best of intentions' in most cases it 'gets them angry and hurt'

i'm a very open-minded person and would appreciate someone telling me in a 'nice and caring' way that my gut looks big or my face has gotten fatter/heavier. if i know it's the truth then i would respect the honesty and appreciate the attention

[A.J.]

This is something I will never, ever hear in my life.

[Badinia]

The "have you lost weight?" switcheroo is what I find weirdest.

I think the best answer for that would be "Are you BLIND, or INSANE?" Best if delivered while squeezing the filling out of an eclair.

"I'M WEARING A GARBAGE BAG WITH A HOLE IN IT, I KNOW I'M FUCKING FAT!"

[Kris10]

WhistlePig is a chick?

(I really have to start paying attention.)

(I heard her husband is fat)

Yeah!!!!! 'bout time someone thought another FEMALE was male. Welcome to the club WhistlePig! :clap:

[WhistlePig]

Yeah!!!!! 'bout time someone thought another FEMALE was male. Welcome to the club WhistlePig! :clap:

Yeah, my old RonFez.net 0.1 modquote was "Treat her like a lady, gents" because everyone assumed I was male!
I don't know why our old mod quotes didn't carry over.

[Mike Teacher]

The difference is, your FRIENDS will skirt the issue and try to be kind about being overweight.

A friend, a true friend, would have no problem telling me I was getting fat. That friend wouldnt be afriad of hurting my feelings, knowing that they are my friend, they may want to help me.

When I gained a lot of weight, only two people, out of all my friends and relatives, had the guts to say 'Mike, whats going on? This is unhealthy'

These are the true friends. Ones that tell you the truth.

=

A continuing theme on the show seems to me that people just dont want the truth about themselves.

I'm fat. I'm still fat. There it is. How hard is that. Yet there are people twice my weight and half my height who can not, will not admit they are fat, or do nothing about it. Deceiveing oneself is one thing, killing oneself is another.

I was killing myself, some tried to stop me. Those people are friends.

[ralphbxny]

I also hate the hey ya losing weight thing. Now that I am losing weight people dont say that to me anymore. I hear hey ya lookin good, but now I know what Hey are ya losing weight means.