Spouse Wedding Gift - Need Help

[MadMatt]

OK, here's the deal: I am getting married in about 2 months. We have been dating/together for 4+ years and living together for 3+ years; we have a wonderful daughter that is the light of our lives; and this is my second marriage (her first).

What the heck do I get my new wife as a Wedding Gift? :blink:

We don't have a lot of money and the little extra we do have is going toward the wedding. I am very romantic and can easily come up with great "little gifts," but I am stumped when it comes to a "big" (but economical) wedding gift.

Most of what I am coming up with is too practical or out of my price range (around $100 max). I need something romantic, relatively inexpensive, sort of frivolous, but not so ridiculous that she will say "Why the hell did you waste money on this?"

I would appreciate some legit suggestions, but I didn't post this in "That's Life" since I know you guys will also come up with some funny stuff. I am getting stressed and need the laugh. :laugh:


Help! :surrender:

[lleeder]

nothing.

[Furtherman]

A bowling ball.

[angrymissy]

We didn't get each other gifts.

[Freitag]

Technically, the wedding rings ARE the gift.

I've never really heard of the bride and groom giving each OTHER gifts on the wedding day. Liz and I didn't exchange gifts, outside of the ring and just little stuff around the rehearsal dinner and day-of.

Best idea I've got is a nice dinner. Morton's Steakhouse is offering a $99 dinner for 2 that includes 2 steaks, 2 salads, 2 apps, and 2 desserts for 99.

[DiabloSammich]

I know what you're talking about, and it shouldn't be something expensive at all.

What were the circumstances surrounding the proposal? Special place, special event?

Come up with something based around that.

[DiabloSammich]

Technically, the wedding rings ARE the gift.

I've never really heard of the bride and groom giving each OTHER gifts on the wedding day. Liz and I didn't exchange gifts, outside of the ring and just little stuff around the rehearsal dinner and day-of.

Best idea I've got is a nice dinner. Morton's Steakhouse is offering a $99 dinner for 2 that includes 2 steaks, 2 salads, 2 apps, and 2 desserts for 99.


And you wanted to be a wedding planner. Tsk, tsk.

[Furtherman]

The ring finger is pointless.

[angrymissy]

I know what you're talking about, but it's a little old fashioned I think. Something like the woman is supposed to give the man a nice watch or some crap. In this day and age where a lot of people pay for their own weddings, there's not much extra cash for that kind of stuff

[Jennitalia]

What about a couple's (side by side) massage at a spa? the only thing is that it'll run you at least two hundred.

[MadMatt]

OK, to get everybody on board lets alter the premise a little then:

Regardless of tradition or modern convention, I would like to get something nice for my new spouse as a wedding gift. It doesn't need to be extravagant or large, but it does need to be meaningful. However, I am running short on ideas and need some help.


(fill in the rest of the info from above - same problem and limitations).

:bye:

[IMSlacker]

Give her $100.

[MadMatt]

Give her $100.

Do I leave it on the night stand or is there another option? :lol:




Plus I said a "max" of $100 (give or take). If I can get away with less and still be the romantic leading man, that's great.

[MellySmelly]

Get her something that you can engrave with the wedding date and your names on it, a little silver jewelry box or something. Do you have those "Things Remembered" stores up there?

[IMSlacker]

Let everybody know where she stands.

http://www.ronandfezstore.com/images/whatleyspread.jpg

[IMSlacker]

Get her something that you can engrave with the wedding date and your names on it, a little silver jewelry box or something. Do you have those "Things Remembered" stores up there?

I got my wife a jewelry box for a wedding gift. She's still using it, so I guess it was a pretty good gift.

[Bellyfullasnot]

My wife and I were in a similiar financial situation when we got married. Wediscussed the whole gift giving thing and decided to keep it small and simple and make up for it during the first anniversary. I got her a crystal waterford christmas ornament. It wasn't very cheap but it also took the pressure off of transporting it from the hotel to the honeymoon.
I don't remember what she got me. Good luck.

[buzzard]

hire a pro to take a video(of the wedding) and give it to her.


or better yet....

Do Something meaningful & unforgettable,the answer is inside you Matty! :thumbup:

[Snacks]

Give her a full tank of gas for her car.

[Snacks]

hire a pro to take a video(of the wedding) and give it to her.


or better yet....

Do Something meaningful & unforgettable,the answer is inside you Matty! :thumbup:

When you say pro do you mean a drunk uncle or retarded nephew? $100 wont pay for anything like that.

I never understood the idea of getting a gift for your own wedding. I would say since you are broke, use the money for the family and living expenses. I would bet she would rather have a place to live or food on the table then something shinny. Especially when $100 now a days buys nothing high quality.

[Bellyfullasnot]

Check the registry after the shower and pick up something that she didn't get.

[chubbykins]

Is she a girly girl? because Coach has some nice things that are under $100 and they are really nice...

Like this clutch it comes in several colors... $58
http://www.coach.com/assets/product_images/colord2/40885_B4KL_d2.jpg


Or even the Jewelry Exchange, they have a cute birthstone ring for $59 :)

Congrats on your marriage!

[sailor]

you can get a nice jewelry box like this for around $100 online:

http://www.jcpenneyjewelry.com/res/img/cat_boxes_prim_img.jpg

depending on your fiancee, it's something she might love.

[lleeder]

you can get a nice jewelry box like this for around $100 online:

http://www.jcpenneyjewelry.com/res/img/cat_boxes_prim_img.jpg

depending on your fiancee, it's something she might love.

The problem with getting a woman a jewelry box is that she'll eventually expect you to fill it for her.

[Ritalin]

I just can't agree to the premise of the question.

People do not buy each other things when they are getting married.

Why do you need to hide behind the gesture of buying a gift? YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED. It's clumsy and inappropriate.

The whole point of the day is that it's your day, collectively. Not her day, not your day. Your first day as a couple. Enjoy the day as a couple, and let others buy you gifts and wish you well. You shouldn't be wasting your time thinking about buying her a present for marrying you. Just enjoy the day.

It reminds me of my sister in law (former, actually) who insisted that my brother buy her a ring because they had a kid.

[LatinSpiceXoX]

I was gonna say a day at a SPA, but those can be more thanm $100.
If you give her a spa day, give her the gift cert. b4 the wedding (she'll need it then).

I'm also thinking of giving her cash, but that's not as romantic or thoughtful.

What's her favorite band? Store? Designer?
Get her concert tixx? Store card? Designer shades?
Dunno.
Be creative!

[PapaBear]

I tend to agree with the people who said that the rings are the gifts, but the previous poster's idea of a spa day isn't bad. But... Give it to her the day before the wedding. With my first wife, I didn't give her one, but her mother did (Her mother worked at one). It relaxed her when she needed it the most, and the facial (no, not THAT kind of facial, you pervs) had her feeling extra confident about the photos on the wedding day.

[sailor]

I just can't agree to the premise of the question.

People do not buy each other things when they are getting married.

Why do you need to hide behind the gesture of buying a gift? YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED. It's clumsy and inappropriate.

it's actually fairly common, whether you think it's appropriate or not. plus, it's something matt seems to want to do.

[FANDICK]

A bowling ball.

"Bowling balls are out this year...electric MIXERS are in"

:wink:

[zathrus]

when furie and i got married, we were tight on money also. as a little token to each other we did get gifts. i gave him a pocket watch and he gave me a picture locket. you might want to consider something on the lines of jewlery. something that she can wear the day you two get married.

[grlNIN]

Errr, the ring.

[Ritalin]

I feel the need to clarify that I think it's great that you're getting married and I wish you all the luck in the world.

I also think that the day spa a day or two before the wedding is a great gift for a bride to be, because it gets crazy for them the week before the wedding. Just, no facials, because it takes time for your skin to heal from them.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

flowers

[zathrus]

or you could send her for a spa day be herself. give her a chance to take a breath and relax.