The Morefriend...

[Tenbatsuzen]

While in a discussion with a friend of mine, I coined a new term - the morefriend.

Have you ever been in a transitional phase with someone, where they aren't your friend, but not quite a steady girlfriend/boyfriend yet?

You are, of course, more than friends...

Hence... morefriend.


I think it works. Better than, "this is the person I'm dating" or all the awkwardness from it.


Goofus example:

"Mom and Dad, this is the boy I've been hooking up with for the last few weeks..."


Gallant example:

"Mom and Dad, this is my morefriend."

See? It works!

Zen


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[impactplayer2k1]

Actually, I prefer "The friend with benefits". It's like a program in which you both get more from each other as friends without all the emotional attachments you get from a girlfriend/boyfriend.

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[TheGameHHH]

Yes, the proper term is indeed "friends with benefits".

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[Poison Ivy]

I hate it no matter what you wanna call it...for some reason that never works for me. I always just end up losing a friend so I don't do that anymore :(

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[Sheeplovr]

more freind isnt a good word

it ryms with whore freind and thats bad

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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Hmmm, I always called that a "fuck buddy."


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[tricia]

i'm with alice on this one, definitely fuckbuddy. of course the last one i had turned into a relationship, 6 years and counting...

[sketchy]

i tried to be more friends with TED and it just ruined everything. never again.

sketchy

[TheGameHHH]

That's cause TED's a player....He did the same thing to me!

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[Poison Ivy]

The thing I am curious to know is how people make these relationships work without misunderstandings....anyone?

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[RF Godfather]

The more correct proper term is "friends with fringe benefits."

I've had a few of those. Where'd that damn blackbook go?

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[TooCute]

Ivy - you say: "We're just
having sex, right?" No
misunderstandings.

My last fuckbuddy... I told
him I wasn't going to sleep
with him anymore. LOL so now
it's so much harer for me to
find someone to go out with
spur of the moment when I'm in
the city :)

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[reeshy]

Getting back to Ted... He's nothing more than a user...yea, that's right, Ted...that's what you are, you bastard!! *sobbing*

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[fatty]

i just call her mother. i think it's self explanatory

it's true,
it's damn true!

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[TomPoo]

it is possible for it to work, it depends on the type of person you are.

If you are able to control your emotions, and not get attached then all the power to you!

I unfortuanlte have never been able to sustain a "fuck buddy" relationship... I end up feeling guilty that there isn't more to the relationship... must be the Catholic school upbringing, bastards

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[Jennitalia]

i think as long as you're both upfront and honest with each other about your intentions with being fuck friends, it should be ok. I think though that usually one person ends up getting hurt

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[TooCute]

I guess, though that a friend with benefits and a fuck buddy are two separate things, really. Friend with benefits = hard, fuckbuddy = easy. But really, a fuckbuddy (or my 'booty call guy' as I called him) isn't really worth the effort. Do you really need to get laid THAT badly?


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[Tenbatsuzen]

This conversation has taken a complete trainwreck angle, so I think I need to clarify.

When you're dating someone, there's a point between *first date* and *officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend* that is a transitional stage - that's where I apply the "morefriend" term.

I'm not talking about shallow sex-only relationships, I'm talking transitional, developing relationships.



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[impactplayer2k1]

Hey TooCute, you can call me when your in the city. Weekends are perfect for me.

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[The Belcher]

Hey TooCute, I can be your "fartbuddy"! Or maybe even your "lingusfriend"!



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[Raven]

The thing I am curious to know is how people make these relationships work without misunderstandings....anyone?


I had one for about 10 yrs !!! worked for the both of us

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[ice cream girl]

poison ivy... they don't. your either with someone or your not... its not that hard to decipher... iv'e never had a "fuck buddy" so i wouldn't know about that. lol it will only get as confusing as you let it get. More than friends usually leads up to something though???

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[ice cream girl]

Tenbatsuzen... couldn't you just say... were seeing each other casually and let that be it... if it develops, it develops... but i think that would definately be classified as "seeing" someone. When it leads to something more, you'll know... but heres a ? ... how many dates or how long would you have to know a woman... asking gentleman now... for you to know if you were interested or not... is there really such a thing as an immediate connection for men, or do they need more "breathing space" then women... ??? (i'm not speaking for all women) just really curious... it's so hard to read men. lol

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[CruelCircus]

for some reason that never works for me. I always just end up losing a friend so I don't do that anymore.
It's not the concept, it's probably you and how you handle it. There has to be an actual effort made to be friends. If the "benefits" part ends ugly, the friend part won't hold up. Not dissimilar to ending a "real" relationship.

The thing I am curious to know is how people make these relationships work without misunderstandings....anyone?
Well, it takes a modicum of maturity and honesty. Don't lie about what you want out of the relationship, but don't necessarily bring it up, either. Both parties probably know what's going on, and it could be an "unspoken" kind of agreement. If someone wants it to get more serious, then the benefits part might have to end.

As for the "morefriend" part, just simply say friend. First of all, it's true. Plus, if you guys haven't addressed it to each other yet, it's awkward. Lastly, all this labeling that goes on- "seeing" "dating" "gf/bf" is really juvenile. Unless you're in high school, the only tag that matters is "married," I think.

Bottom line, two mature adults can have any kind of relationship that they want.


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