Understanding Movies

[ToLEEdo]

My girlfriend and I like different types of movies. She is very intelligent but doesn't like to follow a difficult or confusing storyline without asking a ton of questions. For example, I just watched I Heart Huckabees (alone). I thought it was amazing and I really loved it. I know my SO would hate it and probably not understand it.

Is there anyway to get my girlfriend into more independent thinking movies?
What kind of movies would I use to guide her that way?

[donnie_darko]

why?

you need to find some common ground.

with my many ex's the majority of which didn't like my movies, but we could always find something we both liked.

you don't want her trying to "fix" you, so why do the same to her?

[fezident]

Let's say you f'ing haaate those retarded, generic, vapid romantic comedies but, your girl really really enjoyed them.
Would there be any possible way she could convince you to like 'em?

[ToLEEdo]

I think you guys are going in the wrong direction here. I we've been together for 6 years and we are engaged. I am not trying to change her. I have recently gotten into this type of movie and would like to introduce them to her. I think she would enjoy them but I just can't throw something really complex at her. She enjoyed Stay with Ryan Gosling and the number 23 with Jim Carrey and those movies have the same sort of winding plot. I am looking for other movies like that and I Heart Huckabees that I could watch with her.

[ToLEEdo]

Let's say you f'ing haaate those retarded, generic, vapid romantic comedies but, your girl really really enjoyed them.
Would there be any possible way she could convince you to like 'em?

I am sure that I could find something in those movies that I enjoy. Its all art and it is all relative. I can enjoy it for what it is.

[patsopinion]

"maria full of grace" is a great introduction into good but simple movies
"13"
and stranger than fiction is also a good introduction into somewhat smarter movies

i think thats what your looking for

[ToLEEdo]

"maria full of grace" is a great introduction into good but simple movies
"13"
and stranger than fiction is also a good introduction into somewhat smarter movies

i think thats what your looking for

Yeah, we really like Stranger Than Fiction. I will check out the other two. Thanks

[pennington]

I had a girlfriend like that. If the plot is complicated, sometimes it helps to see it a second time. For example, I rented "12 Monkeys" and she had no idea what was going on. But then when we watched it a second time, it made sense to her.

Other than that, the only thing you can do is stick to movies with simple plots (preferably with some tasteful female nudity, pertinent to the character of course).

[Franklyn]

I think you are looking at this from a difficult angle.

My girl also doesn't like "Indie" type films. She likes explosions and silencers. It used to bother me but I realized that we just have different tastes. If I watch a few "roller coaster" movies with her...she will watch a more "artsy" movie with me. I try to keep them to the ones I really want to watch with her.
Surprisingly we find we enjoy movies we would never watch on our own. I loved the notebook and failure to launch but i usually wouldn't admit that.

My girl just suggested that you watch the spirit awards with her and She will get into those films and actors who won. It will expose her to a lot of films.

Really what it comes down to is that you can not change someone's tastes, you can only add to it if they want.

Movies we both enjoyed though were
Clerks
Clerks 2
Everything Kevin Smith
Pulp Fiction
Delicatessens
Run Lola Run
Network (older but similar vein)
Quinceanera
A Guide to Recognizing Your Saints
Feast
Thank You for Smoking
Wolf Creek
A History of Violence


PS
Another good thing to do is share your netflix queue and set it together.

[drjoek]

A little off topic but
My wife drives me nuts while watching movies. I like to sit down and watch a movie through without a break like going to the cinema. Not that I go much anymore but thats how I enjoy them. My wife on the other hand is up and down pausing the movie to take a phone call, go to the bathroom etc. It bugs me no end .
Anyone else?
Just thought Id like to get that out since it was a movie based thread

[Chigworthy]

A little off topic but
My wife drives me nuts while watching movies. I like to sit down and watch a movie through without a break like going to the cinema. Not that I go much anymore but thats how I enjoy them. My wife on the other hand is up and down pausing the movie to take a phone call, go to the bathroom etc. It bugs me no end .
Anyone else?
Just thought Id like to get that out since it was a movie based thread

That's how I feel about the rare good movie, but if a movie is shit, I can either be sitting on the couch and fall asleep instantly or go bouncing off the walls playing with all sorts of fidgetry and bugging by wife.

[ToLEEdo]

Well put Franklyn I want to add to our tastes not change them. We loved Thank You for Smoking.

[realmenhatelife]

Women dont like to watch movies without asking a ton of questions, its just how women are. There isnt a woman on the planet that will sit through a movie with the same focus as a man.

[midwestjeff]

Women dont like to watch movies without asking a ton of questions, its just how women are. There isnt a woman on the planet that will sit through a movie with the same focus as a man.

Are you posting from 1956?

[foodcourtdruide]

"maria full of grace" is a great introduction into good but simple movies
"13"
and stranger than fiction is also a good introduction into somewhat smarter movies

i think thats what your looking for

Weird! I was just about to reply with Stranger Than Fiction, then i read your post.

My wife is sorta like the original posters girlfriend, she doesn't like smart movies (Mean Streets, Godfather, Dog Day Afternoon, Caddyshack, Big Lebowski, Unbreakable, Pulp Fiction), although she's really smart. There are a lot of movies we have a common ground on, and I just stick to those movies with her.

Some we both liked are:
I am Legend
Crimson Tide
Flawless
The Negotiator
Murder in the First
Unforgiven
Silence of the Lambs
Any Japanese horror movie

I guess it just depends on the person,but if she's intelligent you'll have a common ground somewhere.

[foodcourtdruide]

Women dont like to watch movies without asking a ton of questions, its just how women are. There isnt a woman on the planet that will sit through a movie with the same focus as a man.

Compltely 100% disagree. My wife is not a moron and is able to watch a movie and understand it without asking questions. You sound like Al Bundy. Where are you going next? The Nudie Bar?

[realmenhatelife]

I love al bundy.
I never said women were stupid or couldn't understand a movie, they just like talking more than they like shutting up and staring at something. Men are the other way around. It's not a sexist or even really disputed thing to say women are more verbal and work on a big picture where men have a more internal thought process and are more capable of tunnel vision.

Maybe I need to meet a new class of women, but I dont think I've ever watched a movie with a woman who was content to not talk, fidget or generally meander.