My chick just kinda gave an ultimatum

[Bossanova]

I just had an awful argument with my chick over a concussion.  Short version: I play ice hockey, and in the past three years I have received 5 concussions.  My depth perception has been off and it seems like my equalibrium isn't 100%.  Well, Sunday night I got another one on an intense hit.  My girl basically said to me that she can't watch me get another concussion, she hates watching me in a haze for days straight.  She kinda layed the, if I get one more she may walk deal.  I can't get pissed because she loves me so much and she is just looking out for me, but hockey is my life.  I use to play Div.1 till I blew out my knee thrre times and lost my scholarship, but I continue to play.  Its like a drug, where I just can't stop it.  I ask for some advise.  What do I do?  Drop the one constant in my life since the age of 5, or the only chick that has made me as happy as I am.  Soryy fot the long post.

[jetdog]

Is there some more-laid back league you could join?&nbsp; Dude, continued concussions, along with the other symptoms are nothing to fuck with. <br />

[lintpit]

<font size="2">Get out while you can. Do you want to end up like Ali? A mumbling, twitching shell of who you are? Coach a kids league dude. Give some kids the chance to learn why You love the game so much. Congrats on having a smart chick who loves you.</font>

[outlawfrank]

hockey is your life right now, but you really have to consider your future, with your girl and your health.&nbsp; Nobody wants to watch someone close to them deteriorate.&nbsp; There is always something else you could do competetivly,&nbsp;thats what you will really be missing.&nbsp; A high level of competetion.

[HBox]

You seriosuly want to keep playing even as it's obviously fucking up your brain? That would scare the shit out of me. I have to land more on her side. You have more than enough incentive to scale this back just for yourself.

[lleeder]

Time to quit hockey. Sorry you not a pro and your endangering your life. You should be happy she cares enough to tell you the same.

[Bossanova]

<p>I know it makes me sound like an asshole by continuing to play.&nbsp; I know she is wright, its just hard to drop something I have been doing for 23 years. I keep telling myself its just a&nbsp;few, I know thats crazy. But when I lace up, its like a whole different me.&nbsp; </p>

[reillyluck]

sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let go of something you love to do.&nbsp; Fortunately you have someone who cares enough about you to tell you exactly what you need.&nbsp; sometimes you need someone else to tell you that to make yourself realize it.&nbsp; Good luck!

[mdr55]

NHL 2008 or NHL2K8 for X-box360, PS3, Wii, whatever.<br />

[cougarjake13]

<p>all i got to say is a quote from steve young after his last concussion</p><p><strong>coach</strong>&nbsp; steve are you ok</p><p><strong>steve&nbsp;</strong> yeh coach im fine</p><p><strong>coach</strong> well you gotta come out</p><p><strong>steve</strong> i cant coach this is the super bowl we gotta win</p><p>this was after a play in 1999, super bowl was 1995</p>

[Tall_James]

Look, if you want to stay in the game why don't you coach in a youth league?&nbsp; You'll still be a part of the game and won't become a drooling mess unless you drink too much on the bench.

[HBox]

<strong>cougarjake13</strong> wrote:<br /><p>all i got to say is a quote from steve young after his last concussion</p><p><strong>coach</strong> steve are you ok</p><p><strong>steve </strong> yeh coach im fine</p><p><strong>coach</strong> well you gotta come out</p><p><strong>steve</strong> i cant coach this is the super bowl we gotta win</p><p>this was after a play in 1999, super bowl was 1995</p><p><font color="Navy"><font size="2">That's smarter than 50% of the things he says on ESPN.</font>[/size]</font></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by HBox on 12-12-06 @ 8:34 PM</span>

[Bossanova]

<p>I even told her that, I would think about it after the season.&nbsp; Playoffs start in a week. Is that still selfish or knida compromising?</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[johnniewalker]

Can you switch positions, to like non-hitting defensemen or something? &nbsp; Are you playing as a forward?

[Bossanova]

Right Defensemen.&nbsp; And I can't see myself playing foward.

[lintpit]

<font size="2">We all told you the truth. Your girl told you the truth. You still want to argue the point??? Party on dude. and...good luck bro'.</font>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by lintpit on 12-12-06 @ 8:52 PM</span>

[Sheeplovr]

<p><span class="postbody">I play ice hockey</span></p><p>gay&nbsp;</p>

[Bossanova]

Sheepy that hurts

[JustJon]

<strong>Bossanova</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I even told her that, I would think about it after the season. Playoffs start in a week. Is that still selfish or knida compromising?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;Cut her a deal.&nbsp; Tell her you'll quit if you can finish the one season, then if you want to continue in the game, find a more laid back way to do it, like coaching or teaching.<br /> </p>

[Gvac]

<p>I certainly understand your passion for hockey bro.&nbsp; I played pretty much year round for 20 years.&nbsp; I played in ice, street, and roller leagues.&nbsp; I also coached for 13 of those years.&nbsp; When I hit 32 years of age I decided I was incredibly lucky to have never sustained any serious injuries (a few broken fingers and a bunch of bruises, but that's about it) and to hang up the skates.&nbsp; I saw plenty of guys I played with (and against) sustain some serious damage to their bodies.&nbsp; I figured I'd walk away so I could continue living &quot;real life.&quot; </p><p>If you've never coached before, give it a try.&nbsp; Trust me, it's a blast and in many ways far more rewarding than playing. &nbsp;</p><p>Even though you love lacing them up, risking permanent damage to your brain is just a step short of insanity at this stage of the game. &nbsp;</p><p>Be a man and walk away.&nbsp;</p>

[FezPaul]

<strong>Bossanova</strong> wrote:<br />Sheepy that hurts <p><strong><font face="courier new,courier" size="2">Shut up and eat your soy.</font></strong></p>

[Bossanova]

<p><strong>Gvac wrote:</strong></p>I certainly understand your passion for hockey bro.&nbsp; I played pretty much year round for 20 years.&nbsp; I played in ice, street, and roller leagues. <p>Thank you Gvac.&nbsp; Although I appreciate everyone who offers advice, its nice to hear from a guy who has for played as long as I have.&nbsp; Someone who know the sickness that is hockey.</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Bossanova on 12-12-06 @ 9:09 PM</span>

[empulse]

<p>You are seriously questioning whether or not to continue further brain trauma?&nbsp; That, in and of itself, should set off all sorts of bells and whistles.&nbsp; I hope i am not coming off mean - but damn, you only get one brain, and they can't fix it if you break it.&nbsp;&nbsp; I believe in anything we do, it can't be considered wrong or a problem unless we are hurting people around us.&nbsp; If she loves you, and you love her, then the answer is clear.&nbsp; I used to race MotoX and fucked myself up bad, and my family said they couldn't come watch me anymore, and they weren't going to watch me die.&nbsp; At first I thought &quot;Fuck 'em I m gonna do what i'm gonna do&quot;&nbsp; but knowing they didn't support me, and they weren't there at the races no more... made it not worth it.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; sorry so damn preachy, we only get one life and i couldn'timage it being any harder than it already is, or worse over without not having done the things i wanted to do/try.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[UnknownPD]

<strong>lintpit</strong> wrote:<br /><font size="2">Get out while you can. Do you want to end up like Ali? A mumbling, twitching shell of who you are? </font><p><font size="3">Good advice...They'll always be more chicks</font></p>

[Fez4PrezN2008]

<p>Well, my observation is that if its an ultimatum over hockey now, what's it going to be over later in the relationship?</p><p>If you don't stop base jumping, I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop hanging out playing cards with your buddies all the time, I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop picking up hookers, I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop huffing paint, I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop peeing in my butt, I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop eating soy products I am going to leave you.</p><p>If you don't stop surfing ronfez.net, I am going to leave you.</p><p>I am really concerned for you budday, you never know where this could lead...</p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<strong>Bossanova</strong> wrote:<br />I just had an awful argument with my chick over a concussion. Short version: I play ice hockey, and in the past three years I have received 5 concussions. My depth perception has been off and it seems like my <strong>equalibrium </strong>isn't 100%. Well, Sunday night I got another one on an intense hit. My girl basically said to me that she can't watch me get another concussion, she hates watching me in a haze for days straight. She kinda layed the, if I get one more she may walk deal. I can't get pissed because she loves me so much and she is just looking out for me, but hockey is my life. I use to play Div.1 till I blew out my knee <strong>thrre </strong>times and lost my scholarship, but I continue to play. Its like a drug, where I just can't stop it. I ask for some <strong>advise</strong>. What do I do? Drop the one constant in my life since the age of 5, or the only chick that has made me as happy as I am. <strong>Soryy fot </strong>the long post.<p>&nbsp;That explains your spelling. </p>

[Team_Ramrod]

<p>Going up front won't make you any less likely to get that one hit that'll fuck you for good.</p><p>Growing up I loved the hitting, that was my bread and butter. I had killer hipchecks and a wicked good low slapshot from the point. I'm only 27 now but it wasn't until I was playing my last year of midget and first few years of junior that the concussions became an issue. Prior to that it was just 'getting your bell rung'... I don't remember ever getiing a concussion (that may be the concussion talking) but I've seen many players go down with them.</p><p>The thing to look at is your future, not only with your chick but your life in general. Will it be worth it to say that the reason you can't process information properly is because you love hockey? Is it worth it to fall flat on your ass everytime you get up too fast because your equalibrium is fucked? Is it worth it to have blurry vision? Is it worth it to wake up every night with killer headaches (if you even get to sleep)?</p><p>The bottom line is; there's a point where it becomes too many. You should feel lucky that you haven't got there yet. Your chick loves you and she is looking out for you. Sometimes we need to be able to see what others can't or won't see in themselves. She is taking a stance that has to be tough for her, knowing how much you love the game, but she is doing it because she knows you won't.</p><p>Sometimes you got to let go and trust someone else. If you feel the need for the game you can join a beer league but if she's going to this extent there must be a reason and it very well may be worth it to listen.</p>

[mjflem]

<p>Where did you play division I at?&nbsp; </p>

[Fallon]

It's time to maybe think about coaching. That's way too many in one year. Hockey might be a large part of your life, but if you think about it I'm sure your chick and other things will have much greater value to you.

[spoon]

<strong>UnknownPD</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>lintpit</strong> wrote:<br /><font size="2">Get out while you can. Do you want to end up like Ali? A mumbling, twitching shell of who you are? </font><p><font size="3">Good advice...They'll always be more chicks</font></p><p>Now that's great advice!</p><p>Hey Boss, I love the game too and wouldn't even think of opting out unless absolutely necessary.&nbsp; Coaching just isn't the same as the answer lies in simply toning it down or dropping to a league a little less intense.&nbsp; Most rinks have a ton of levels, and truthfully fights don't usually happen unless both players want it.&nbsp; I'm sure you could avoid much of the extra action, but the occasional concussion from hits may happen if you stay at the upper levels.&nbsp; There's no way I'd quit, but that's just me.&nbsp; Just find a league that's a little less crazy until you get a hold on things.</p><p>Where do you play now?&nbsp; And what level?&nbsp; I play on three teams right now at different rinks so it's really possible we've matched up here and there.&nbsp; Yet I'm not at the division one level as I started when in college.&nbsp; I sure as hell wish I did, but that's in the list of regrets.</p><p>Good luck with it man!</p>

[JamMaster]

<p>Its tough bro.&nbsp; Played baseball High School, College and in a very competitive league for a few years after.&nbsp; I hurt my back (herniated disks and required sugery) from something else.&nbsp; But after&nbsp; I was healed I tried playing baseball again.&nbsp; What happend??? Diving for a ball I fucked up my back all over again.&nbsp; I am probably going to have to have disc fusion now.&nbsp; This is now going to fuck with my other passion, drumming.&nbsp; Worst mistake of my life trying to push myself.&nbsp; </p><p>I know how you feel...I have a very competitive nature and I was damn good at baseball. I did not for the life of me want to give it up and I paid for it.</p><p>I would say stop playing, but maybe a compromise of finishing the season and then play in a non-checking league the next year.&nbsp; I don't know where you live, but they have some good non-checking leagues in lower Westchester. I could get you information if you want.</p><p>&nbsp;Anyway...best of luck and take care of that noggin</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Raven]

<p>Drop the hitting leagues -- go the a Adult league no contact- you can still have all the fun with some &quot;insidental&quot; contact + what helmet are you wearing?? I had head issues &amp; spent the $ for the new bauer - have not had a problem from then on &amp; as much as I hated it i ude a cage &amp; mouth guard now.</p><p>This way you can keep play'n and keep your life &amp; girl</p><p><img src="http://www.hockeymania.co.uk/cart_images/8500gif1146239900.gif" border="0" alt="helmet" title="helmet" width="187" height="195" /></p>

[Death Metal Moe]

<p>I don't get why you'd want to continue playing something that's nearly killed and crippled you, but I completely understand your feeling.</p><p>If playing the drums ever injured me to the point near where you were hurt with hockey, I'd still play.&nbsp; It's infectious.&nbsp; I'm lucky in that playing the drums doesn't run the risk of injury everytime I play like hockey does for you, but I can feel your pain.</p><p>If I blew out my knees, wrists and ankles from excessive playing, I'd still try my best to play something.</p><p>You have a very difficult decision to make and I don't envy you.&nbsp; I hope something works out for you, but it sounds like a point in your life that you're going to have to choose a path and leave one thing behind. I'm sorry.</p><p>Good luck.</p>

[nate1000]

<strong>Raven</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Drop the hitting leagues -- go the a Adult league no contact- you can still have all the fun with some &quot;insidental&quot; contact + what helmet are you wearing?? I had head issues &amp; spent the $ for the new bauer - have not had a problem from then on &amp; as much as I hated it i ude a cage &amp; mouth guard now.</p><p>This way you can keep play'n and keep your life &amp; girl</p><p><img src="http://www.hockeymania.co.uk/cart_images/8500gif1146239900.gif" border="0" alt="helmet" title="helmet" width="187" height="195" /></p><p>This is exactly what I would have recommended. There are non-check leagues everywhere. Find one and keep skating. (BTW- I am writing this with my left foot wrapped from a wicked slap shot I took off the skate last night.) </p>

[Furtherman]

<p>I got two words for you.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Muhammand Ali.</p>

[Contra]

3 blown knees, large amount of concussions...

I know you've been playing for over 20 years, but maybe you just suck dude.

Do your team a favor and get out of the way for a more skilled, healthier guy!