My life is about to change

[walking joint]

This is a day I could feeling coming for a while now, but now that its a reality its finally really starting to hit me.

My mother in law doesn't make much money and i knew finacially she was in trouble. But things just seemed to go by without any problem. Until about 3 months ago she asked my brother in law for $500 because she couldn't pay her rent and she had no money. She has an apartment on LI for $1000 a month and doesn't make enough to pay that and her other bills...so was heading for more and more debt. and forgive my bitterness, but i know she won't go look for a cheaper place to live, and was waiting for my wife or her brother to step up and take care of her. which in the end means her moving into my house or us paying her rent. we can't afford that so she is moving in the end of February.

I know its wrong of me to complain, but she has options and at 27 I don't want to live with my parents yet my mother in law. my wife and I and my brother in law have agreed to buy her a condo in Arizona...where she wants to move to near her brother and could get this done by the end of February. but today she told us she isn't ready to make that move yet...fuck that...you aren't ready to pay your rent either and i'm not ready to pay it or live with her. she wants to give it a year. she says she doesn't want to live far from her grandchildren, which there are none of and at this point me and my wife are the only possiblity she has of having grandchildren and we aren't close to that point...and now i feel pressure for something that should be our choice.

it just pisses me off that she has talked about moving to AZ to be close to her brother and now that we have made the move possible at a point she really needs it, she won't take it and throws more stuff at us. i can't vent to my wife because i know we can't leave her mom without money or a place to stay, but she just has no concept of money and now she isn't only draining herself, but the rest of her family. maybe i'm wrong, but i had to vent. sorry.

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[Johnny Fontane]

If only you had stayed single. My condolences.

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This message was edited by Johnny Fontane on 1-17-04 @ 9:32 PM

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[stickyfingers]

Good thing you are up 2000 on me in football bets

All kidding aside, I find it hard to believe that you are only 27 and have the ability to not only support yourself independently but have the ability to partially take on someone else's financial burden. You've done well to get to that point and I hope I am there in 3 years. But, that being said, I know exactly how it would be if she moved in with you guys....My girlfriends parents are in the same situation only one generation earlier. Her Grandmother lives with her parents and has for a number of years. Unfortunately, once she moved in there was no moving out and it is well known that there won't be untill she dies. So, i would try to put my foot down if I were you because it could be a little longer than you expect if she moves in with you.

P.S. I see how my GF's dad gets when his mother in law, the one who lives in his house, starts telling people what they should do with themselves when she, herself never knew what to do with hers. Its not pretty, she feels like she is head of the house but at the same time has never gotten her drivers license and is totally dependent on her daughter and son in law for everything. Its sad.
(Keep in mind I understand and appreciate everything my parents have ever done for me and would find it next to impossible to say no to them too if something like this happened) Good Luck!





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[FUNKMAN]

If the situation is 'unavoidable' try to think of some of the positives. Hopefully she may cook, help clean up, and contribute towards the additional food, utilities, and bills.

And hopefully she 'not in a rude way' minds her own business. If she doesn't contribute and begins to 'meddle' then it will be stressful and a strong possibility of confrontation.

The reality is it's 'tough'. My mother-in-law 'rest her soul' was confined to a wheelchair and my wife's family(one sister two brothers) determined that after my wife and I were married for one year that she would stay with us and my sister-in-law for 6 month periods and that the sons and daughter-in-laws could not take care of her.

I agreed but it was not easy. I was younger and immature and it caused a strain on my wife and I and then you become more stressed because you feel 'guilty' because my mother-in-law would sense it. It turns out after approx 4 months with us she suffered a 24hour stroke and it increased her handicap(MS) substantially and had to go into a nursing home.

As long as you and your wife love each other it will work out in the end!

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[Heavy]

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then give her my number

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Respect the Elderly my friend. Cuz we'll all be one in the future. Maybe it won't be bad, but make sure if it doesn't work out that you al least got a Plan B. Doesn't hurt to plan ahead.

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[JohnnyCash]

Goodbye sex. Shes gonna give you the "I cant with my mom in the house." Ive seen it happen before. Im sorry.

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[Heavy]

Respect the Elderly my friend.

Elderly? Youre talking about a woman in her mid-late 40's

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This message was edited by Wadd on 1-17-04 @ 11:43 PM

[walking joint]

Elderly? Youre talking about a woman in her mid-late 40's

or her mid 60's.

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[newport king]

my wife and I and my brother in law have agreed to buy her a condo in Arizona

that shit right there would have drove me out of the house for a good month. please tell me you were the least willing of this trio to be involved in this.
on the plus side, if you and your wife do want to have children in the future and she wants to work you have free day care.

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[East Side Dave]

or her mid '60's


My mom's in her mid '60's, too, Walking Joint! We should get them together and play horse races with 'em! I call my momma gets to be Seabisquits!

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[Lisa Croft]

I have a similar situation going on in my family as well. My Nana on my mom's side has been living with my aunt and her husband who are in their early 30's. Nana is 75 and one of those neat-freak old school Argentinian people who believes in putting EVERYONE'S underwear and pajamas under their pillow, reorganizing the cupboards in seemingly random, yet apparently precise fashion. My uncle has had enough and announced yesterday he can no longer take living with her. He once bought a shitload of expensive ribs and meats he was keeping frozen for a big SuperBowl party and had made it clear they were not to be touched. Sure enough, he comes home from work one fine Tuesday to find Nana decided "it would be nice to eat the meats for today, no?" and had cooked them all. If your mother-in-law is THIS overbearing, you have to put your foot down. This type of uncomfortable situation could certainly put a strain on your marriage. It's your wife's duty to speak to her mother about the situation and let her know this can only be a temporary thing. I can't imagine anyone in their right mind not understanding that you're young and want to live with your wife alone for a while. When you finally have kids, do you want to look back and say "I remember the good old days, when it was just me and you... and your mother"?? On the other hand, if your mother-in-law is the type who won't constantly be butting into your business or your marriage, having an old lady around to take care of the house responsibilities sure can be convenient. That's what I'm hoping, because at this rate, Nana may have to move in with us. I'm hiding my underwear.

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[sr71blackbird]

Id say go into it with a definite time frame factored in. Say, "you have 1 year to get your affairs in order. We will help you in every way as you prepare for the move, call shipping companys, etc. " Just make it clear that its temporary and something you all look forward to, keep talking about it, etc. " Isnt Arizona great? No snow! No falling on the slippery sidewalks! No humidity! You know how the humidity aggrivates your bad knee 'ma! No bugs! I hear they have really nice places to visit in Arizona!" Keep it up to the point where she cant wait to get out of there!!

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[HarryManAss]

quick, set up a cam corder in the bookcase in her bedroom and send me the tapes at P.O.Box 132.

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does she keep up with her life insurance premiums?

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[walking joint]

just felt like venting again, so I'll give an update:

the move into my house has taken longer than expected. She moved in a week ago and it already feels like months. we just don't get along that well and its a very strange feeling to have in your home. Yesterday I was the first home from work and she was sitting on the couch....now this is the first day she has been there after we had work. I heard her jump up when the door opened expecting to see her daughter, but it was me. We said a quick hello and then there was silence for the next hour til my wife got home. I sat 5 feet away from her as she watched TV and I was on the internet and nothing was said. it was such a relief to hear the door open and to hear my wife come home. I will never again be the first home from work. I will drive around for hours if I have to. I feel trapped in my own home.

My wife said she would stay out of our way, but a week in I've yet to see that happen. We get home 3 or 4 hours after her and she still will waits for us for dinner. She expects us to sit down and eat as a family, but me and my wife usually sit in front of the TV. well now its just me in front of the TV as my wife and her mom eat dinner together. we usually watch TV together at night...usually her shows, but now its me in front of the TV and my wife and her mom on the couch reading books and talking. I feel like i'm single, but I can't hook up.

on Sunday morning we get a knock on our door at 9AM and its her mom. she woke us up to tell us she will be calling her brother and wanted to see if my wife wanted to talk to him. when she said no, she had a laundry list of questions to ask. what do we feel like having for dinner, does she want to go shopping, etc, etc. WTF, its 9AM and our day isn't ready to start...and if it is I don't want it to start with your daily quiz.

back to work for me...i never thought I would be upset leaving work to go home, but its more relaxing here.