I think I bit off more than I could chew

[ag]

I took this second job as a bar-back/bus-boy/dishwasher/kitchen help. I started the first week working monday and tuesdays, then it became Fridays-Tuesdays. The money is ok, $120 between Mondas and Tuesday nights, and over $100 on fridays. The only thing is now I thought I could handle working on my weekends and giving up my social life just to make some money to save for a car. As of the moment Im seeing this girl and I want to spend more time with her. Its hard enough she comes down to the bar every friday with her co-workers and I barley have time to talk and BS with her. But its not just that, I really miss going out, I mean I can handle not going out every weekend, but its getting stressfull. My Seasonal job is comming to an end, and Im worried of I throw a few days away I might not get them back if ever needed. I just feel extreemly stressed and almost depressed not seeing any of my friends. Maybe Im too young to handling 2 jobs without a social life, maybe I wasnt ment to have 2 jobs. Honestly I try to keep focused by telling myself I need to save for a car, and insurance. Ive saved over 3K so far between both jobs, and maybe spent about $150 of that on recreation, that being, going out Thursday and spending a few bucks where I work for a few beers to relax. What do you think I should do?

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[Reephdweller]

I think you've come this far to keep going and tough it out, you're within range of getting a relatively decent used car. I don't know if that's what you want or a brand new car. But ragardless, you should save as much as you can. I'm sure your girl and your friends know that you have goals and you're saving up your money so they understand.

There was a time when I had massive credit card debt across several cards and it seemed like I would never see the end of it. I decided to give up my social life and save as much as I could possibly save with each paycheck, I even took on a second job as well. Little by little I accumulated what I needed and within a year I had cleared away almost all of my debt. It's one of my things I've done that I'm proud of because I accomplished this task that I had set out for myself. I know it sucks for you right now, but when you ultimately get that car and are driving wherever you want you will feel a satisfaction and pride that I can't describe.

I know it's difficult and all, but you have holidays coming up and generally I think bars do very well during these times, you might make lots more money...especially on the weekends. I used to work as a busboy and a waiter and weekends during the holidays I used to make good money.

It's your call ultimately, but I think if you stick with it you will see the payoff and you'll be glad you did.

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[Def Dave in SC]

maybe I wasnt ment to have 2 jobs


Dont try to justify your crappy feelings with BS like this

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[JPMNICK]

I am not sure of your age or situation, but here is my $.02. I got a 1996 blazer when I turned 17, in 1998. once I started college I got this awesome job making really good money in NYC. I said the first thing I was going to do was get a new car with all my new found cash. My friends were all starting to get new cars, camaro's and S4 Audi's. So basically I was all about getting this nice new car. Then I realized, what a fucking waste of money. No matter what car you have, in a year or 2 it is going to be old news. You will not love it is much, and you will still be killed with the payments. My one friend got a new car cause he thought it was going to help him with chicks. It didn't, and any chick that dates you cause of your car is a whore and not worth it anyway. So basically a good thing came out of this. I saved a shitload of money. Now if my blazer breaks down, I can get a new car, but there really is not point spending all that money for a car and insurance. I would not get the car, but keep the second job during the week just to save money. Its never a bad idea to have extra cash laying around. I would give up the Fridays and get back into your social life. In 10 years, you will look back and remember the fun drunk/drinking/banging friday nights more than you will remember a new car. Now I have no idea if your car is some piece of shit that never starts, but if it is useable, I would suggest just keeping it. Either way, hope it works out for ya!

[zoom2457]

I tried this second job crap too. I was working at night as a telemarketer. After about 2 weeks, I decided that there wasn't anything I needed that was worth not having a social life. Although, that just might be because I was a telemarketer and that job seriously sucks ass.

If you want the car, keep working. If not, don't.

Good luck whichever you choose.

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This message was edited by zoom2457 on 11-12-03 @ 9:24 AM

[Furtherman]

Its hard enough she comes down to the bar every friday


Yes, it is. That has got to stop. Every once in a while is nice, but she has to realize. You are working. Try and keep work and social life separate as possible.





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What do you think I should do?


Make money & save money. Repeat, make money & save money. Forget everything else.

I don't know what your situation is, but I know how terribly difficult it is for young kids to get a good job nowadays. And if you don't have a college education, it's even more difficult.

Make money & save money. Focus on that. Count your money for recreation. Don't blow it on bullshit.

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