Tenbatsuzen
11-06-2003, 05:57 PM
Due to the nature of my current job, I still maintain contact (in a business sense) with my old job, and my old boss.
One of the things I hated about my old boss is that even though he had the facade of someone with Down's Syndrome, he was actually quite adept at using guilt trips to get people to do things for him.
I absolutely hated it when he pulled shit like that, because it was incredibly transparent, but because I don't like to let people down, I'd eventually buckle to him.
This translated to me cancelling two vacations AND working on Christmas Eve last year.
So I quit the job on somewhat good terms, although I vowed I wouldn't let that prick fuck with me again.
Anyhow, I was offering him something today. He then starts laying a guilt trip on me about how I never do anything for him now (at my new job.)
What he fails to realize is that I have about 30 companies that are more important to me. And I tried to nicely explain this to him.
He really put the screws to me and was being a real asshole. And because I believed in diplomacy, I kept listening and getting more and more agitated.
I could have just said, "Listen, that's all I can do for you. Bye." But I didn't. And I was getting more and more angry hearing this asshole talk, and I couldn't just say, "HEY! FUCKFACE! I HAVE COMPANIES THAt ARE WILLING TO BEND OVER BACKWARDS FOR ME TO EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE THEM, AND I'M DOING YOU A FUCKING FAVOR!"
Finally, I buckled and I gave him some extra stuff to shut him up and so I didn't have to tell him no.
After I hung up the phone I had to leave my office because I was so pissed off.
My new boss, who is incredibly cool, heard the story and started laughing at me. He said, "That's a new lesson for you. No matter what those people did for you, they can't do anything for you now. Tell them no, and walk away. It's ok."
I felt better after that.
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One of the things I hated about my old boss is that even though he had the facade of someone with Down's Syndrome, he was actually quite adept at using guilt trips to get people to do things for him.
I absolutely hated it when he pulled shit like that, because it was incredibly transparent, but because I don't like to let people down, I'd eventually buckle to him.
This translated to me cancelling two vacations AND working on Christmas Eve last year.
So I quit the job on somewhat good terms, although I vowed I wouldn't let that prick fuck with me again.
Anyhow, I was offering him something today. He then starts laying a guilt trip on me about how I never do anything for him now (at my new job.)
What he fails to realize is that I have about 30 companies that are more important to me. And I tried to nicely explain this to him.
He really put the screws to me and was being a real asshole. And because I believed in diplomacy, I kept listening and getting more and more agitated.
I could have just said, "Listen, that's all I can do for you. Bye." But I didn't. And I was getting more and more angry hearing this asshole talk, and I couldn't just say, "HEY! FUCKFACE! I HAVE COMPANIES THAt ARE WILLING TO BEND OVER BACKWARDS FOR ME TO EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE THEM, AND I'M DOING YOU A FUCKING FAVOR!"
Finally, I buckled and I gave him some extra stuff to shut him up and so I didn't have to tell him no.
After I hung up the phone I had to leave my office because I was so pissed off.
My new boss, who is incredibly cool, heard the story and started laughing at me. He said, "That's a new lesson for you. No matter what those people did for you, they can't do anything for you now. Tell them no, and walk away. It's ok."
I felt better after that.
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