Advice, please..

[NecroRealm1]

Ok, I started dating this girl back in 1998. The whole time I was with her, I did love her, but I was also in love with her younger sister. They both held special places in my heart, and I would have done anything for either of them. A year and a half ago, me and the older one broke up and she became a lesbian and moved away. I was still very much in love with her sister. We have been friends for all of this time, and we have recently become very close. Not to the point of kissing, but still close. She's always telling me that she loves me and I return the favor. Well, on wednesday night, I decided to stop talking to her, forever. I know that she doesn't love me that way that I love her. My feelings for her were becoming too hard for me to control, so I felt that it was best for me to just walk away. I didn't give her any explanation, I just stopped taking her calls, and she has called me at least 100 times since wednesday. Am I doing the right thing? I never wanted to hurt her. I always wanted to be someone that she could depend on, but it got to the point where I was just hurting too much and I couldn't take anymore. Someone please re-assure me.. Or tell me that I'm making a mistake, or something.. What would you do?

[DC Reed]

This better not be more of your poetry, if you wanna post that do it one MusicianForums.com and dont spam it.

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[NecroRealm1]

Yeah, that almost doesn't look just like a poem..

[DC Reed]

yah but thats in general to everything else you have said with no point, not just to this one

but your lil story could be made into an emo song pretty quick.

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Damn,
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[Mike Teacher]

Well, if it narrative poetry my advise is give at least why you broke up with the first one originally. That would help as to what the deal is.

If it's what really happening:

1. 'I love You' is the most over-used and ill-used phrase in the English language.

2. 'But I was also in love...' either an impossibility, or, just see number 1 above.

3. 'I know that she doesn't love me the way that I love her..' see number 2, or 1.

4. '...decided to stop talking to her, forever.' Forever is perhaps second only to 'I Love You' as referenced in 1.

What would I do? I would stop telling people I love them. The emotions, connotations, denotations, and pure psychological energy involved in this is beyond anyone's measure.

It's a most beautiful thing. By definition, THE most. But the damage from overuse? Incalculable.

Just My Opinion, could be 100% wrong.

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[TheMojoPin]

I don't get why you would just cut things off cold like that.

Tell her whats up. Either she freaks out and bails, and you're where you are right now without the guilt and worry of just Dr0pping her, or she likes the idea and something may happen. Either way you're better off than you are now...right?

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This message was edited by TheMojoPin on 8-10-03 @ 7:13 PM

[DJEvelEd]

I hate when I get all mushy & sappy over a girl. The girls usually hate mushy & sappy. YOU SHOULD HATE MUSHY & SAPPY. Be a man and bang her. She will respect and appreciate you for it. I think you're too dependant and needy for this girls love. (you're too nice)
Also, if I'm gonna break up with someone, I do it in my mind long before, to kinda prepare myself and to avoid second thoughts.

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[TheMojoPin]

Be a man and bang her.

And how do you suggest he get to that point, Assmaster?

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[DJEvelEd]

And how do you suggest he get to that point, Assmaster?


By being a man and not sappy, Cum Covered Feces Breath.

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[Katylina]

she became a lesbian and moved away


OK- this made me laugh.



I return the favor


obviously not as well as a woman can


I would take this post serious, but all those fucking suicide poems really annoyed me. It seems you are just one of those people looking for "the drama." Take acting classes. Get all of it out of your system. Then post happy poems about daisies, sunshine, and hubcaps on the side of the road.

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This message was edited by Katylina on 8-10-03 @ 9:33 PM

[Johnny Fontane]

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she became a lesbian and moved away




OK- this made me laugh.



Kat, you beat me to it. I rarely laugh out loud to anything on this board (no matter how funny), but yeah, that made me chuckle.


I just stopped taking her calls


You know what - that's a real douchebag move, it really is. How would you like it if someone did that to you? You were "hurting too much and couldn't take it anymore?" What's the matter with you? You should be ashamed of yourself.

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This message was edited by Johnny Fontane on 8-10-03 @ 9:52 PM

[NecroRealm1]

Shit man, I agree with all of you.. I wouldn't like it at all if someone did that to me, but what the fuck do I say to her at this point? I haven't spoken to her in days, and she has called me about 100 times(no bullshit). How do I justify this, at this point? I could lie to her and tell her that I was in the hospital with the west nile virus or something, but I run the risk of her not believing me and being mad at me for lying.. She's really mad at me. She left me a voicemail saying that she was really pissed at me for not taking her calls. What do I do, at this point? Like I said, I'd hate it if someone just cut me off, but really.. should I turn back at this point? She only called me twice today, which means that she's slowly starting to get the picture(I hope). Her birthday is tomorrow. What should I do?? Let it go, or go all out to make it up to her and tell her what the deal is?? Seriously, someone please help me, I am totally stressing about this.

The reason that I cut her off... All summer, I have been going out of my way doing things for her. I let her take my car to NY for a trip that I thought was to visit family. That's just one of many things.. She told me on wednesday night that she has been seeing some guy in NY. When she told me that, I was in shock. She kept it from me, and she took my car to NY twice to see him. After that, I didn't care about her at all, anymore. I had no feelings for her, good or bad. That's when I decided to just cut her off, completely. I did the same thing to her sister(my ex) a couple of weeks ago, and she eventually stopped calling me. That's wrong, but I felt that I had to do it because I felt that it was best for me.

I'm not a fag, I promise.

This message was edited by NecroRealm1 on 8-10-03 @ 10:34 PM

[Johnny Fontane]

Her birthday is tomorrow. What should I do??


YOU FUCKING CALL HER AND WISH HER HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Now stop being so insecure. I wish I had stayed in touch with all the girls I was just friends with.

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[phixion]

I'm not a fag, I promise.


u may not b a fag but u sure are a pussy. tell her happy birthday. and then the next day u tell her ur feelings. tell her u cant b 'just friends' with her, let her make the decision, dont just take away someone's choice. i understand ur hurt, but suck it up and feel ur balls if they're there. pain is a part of life, deal with it.

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[NecroRealm1]

I'm in the process of explaining everything to her, right this second.. She's totally not understanding.. haha

[Johnny Fontane]

I'm in the process of explaining everything to her, right this second.. She's totally not understanding.. haha


You win!

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"You're not drunk if you can lie on the floor without holding on." - Dean Martin

"The day they stop making fun of you is the day they don't give a damn about you." - Sammy Davis Jr.

[sr71blackbird]

Why are you "stressing out" over someone you claim to not have any feelings towards? If its bothering you, the obvious thing is to tell her what your feeling so you and she can move on. If shes calling you (100 times) like you say, than she has some obvious desire to maintain the relationship and values you as someone of importance. Just tell her what you feel. If it scares her off and you "dont care'', then its no biggie. If she explodes in an emotional orgasm and declares her love back, then you get her and have the greatset come-back story (boy gets girl, boy loses girl to lesbien,boy gets girls hotty younger sister)

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[NecroRealm1]

that made me smile =)

We talked for a while.. She didn't understand why I didn't just tell her how I felt. She wants to still be friends, but she's leaving for school soon and I told her that I don't think that I can be a positive influence on her life, so I'm just going to let her go. Then I said happy birthday and goodbye and that's it. Thanks for the advice everyone.. You all kick major ass.

[Katylina]

Hmm- why don't you send her one of your cheerful poems as a birthday present?

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[Johnny Fontane]

that made me smile



Smile though your heart is breaking.

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"The day they stop making fun of you is the day they don't give a damn about you." - Sammy Davis Jr.

[high fly]

You never reaaly loved the first one as much as you think.
With the second one you seem to be trying hard to not tell the truth.
Why?
Even if it makes you uncomfortable, tell her the truth.
If you think it was dumb not to return her calls, fine, say so.
Tell her you weren't thinking clearly, which is also true.

" and they ask me why I drink"

[East Side Dave]

Start stalking her. It's fun!






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[high fly]

Steal her cat.
Leave one-a-them "gag" ransome notes with the letters cut out of the newspaper nailed to her door with the biggest butcher knife you can find.
Put especially gruesome threats to her, the cat and her family in there.
Try not to forget the "Don't call the cops" part.
Of course to get the cat back safe and sound, she'll have to come over and give you nonstop sex all weekend.
It's worked for me lotsa times.
You've got to really scare her and convince her that you are serious - it's the only way it will work.
That element of danger will really spice things up.

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