Is marriage an option for you?

[vegeta]

I know that there are a lot of single or "friends with benifits" on this board and I wondered if anyone's reallyin a rush to get married. And if you are, whyt he hell for?

Is it really so necessary when you know the sex might be less, you'll fall out of lov enad you'll be stuck because you'll want to be with other people, but divorce is a messy thing.

So marriage: yes or no?

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[grlNIN]

Is it really so necessary when you know the sex might be less, you'll fall out of love and you'll be stuck because you'll want to be with other people, but divorce is a messy thing.


Well i would presume that anyone who is even considering marriage isn't doing it for shits and giggles and actually loves the person with all of their being. Saying that im sure that there are people who have gotten married while in love and had that love kind of fizzle i suppose you could say. I don't see why people would get married just for the hell of it and if it doesn't work out there is always divorce as an option i guess. Why don't you just move in together for a bit a see how things go, no need to get married its just a piece of paper.

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[Arienette]

marriage is definitely an option for me. and i think that, when you have somebody that you really want to be with for the rest of your life, the concerns you mentioned really don't apply. sure, bad things can happen. marriages end all the time. but that's not a reason to never do it. you find yourself a person that you really think you can make it work with. then you try as hard as you can to actually make it work. and some marriages do work out, and they do stay together and still want to be with one another. i'm not getting married this second, but i have no desire to ever be with anyone other than the person that i'm with. that's enough for me.

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[TooCute]

Marriage ISN'T "just a piece of paper". There are many, many financial advantages to it.

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[grlNIN]

Marriage ISN'T "just a piece of paper". There are many, many financial advantages to it.


She's got a point there.

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[Cybersoldier]

There are many, many financial advantages to it.


And disadvantages as well, it is not a heat of the moment type of decision

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[ChrisTheCop]

Too many people these days are "looking to get married". Looking to get married...to anyone? Yes! If not to me then to the next guy that comes along who is willing. There was a time when marriage was a social necessity; a woman needed a man to support her. Those who didnt became spinsters (shudderrr). Yes, today there are still financial reasons to be married, but the necessity is gone. The thought of marriage should come AFTER you meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It seems to me alot of women have their whole wedding planned out already and are just looking for someone to fill the yet-to-be-cast role of groom. I'm not anti-marriage. I'm anti-divorce. If I ever get married, it will be forever, so I better find someone I can love (and who can love me) for that long. But if I never find her, I'm sure we'll both be ok.

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Only if she wants a green card.

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[Cybersoldier]

Only if she wants a green card.

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[Tall_James]

Personally? Marriage gets an A + rating. I'm very happy.

However, I do think that if you get married too young, the marriage has less of a chance of succeeding. So don't even think about getting married until you're 29-30.

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[CaptClown]

Only if she wants a green card

... and a lot of cash. Don't forget the cash.

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[vegeta]

Well, said james. I think it's much better ot wait. If you're getting married in your early 20s, you probably don't have a career yet, you don't have the "real life" thing totally settled and you're still kinda green in the maturity department.

Of course, there are exceptions!

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[A.J.]

Right now, I'd be lucky just to get a date.

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[gone]

not that im ready for it right now but im i have a child like fantasy of my perfect wedding and marriage.. its something i look foward to
it probably has alot to do with my traditional italian family who are mad im not married yet...

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[Arienette]

It seems to me alot of women have their whole wedding planned out already and are just looking for someone to fill the yet-to-be-cast role of groomi find this very, very sad. luckily, none of my female friends (myself included) are from this school of thought. i always sort of figured that i'd get married one day, but i never sat around daydreaming about a wedding or looking for someone to marry me. even now, i don't think much about a big wedding or being a princess or anything. i'm much more interested in the marriage than the wedding.

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[FUNKMAN]

this may sound a little corny but i never really pre-planned marriage or thought about what marriage should be. i met a girl, fell in love, got engaged, and got married. as I look back it seemed to be such a purely natural occurence.
The same went for having children, it was never discussed. It seemed when the right time came(whatever made it the right time? i'm not sure but we both seemed to know it)) she missed her birth control, i knew it and 9 months later we had our first. The same for our second child.
It was the same with buying the home we live in now. It was never discussed but one day it was "we gotta move" My Mom and Dad were living next door Mom and our daughters were so very close, but something said it was time to move.

As i look back over the past 20 years, everything just seemed to find it's right time to happen.

I'm not saying our lives are perfect, at times they are far from it and noone knows what the future holds. I can sincerely say though that Love is the glue that has held us together this far...

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[Se7en]

Marriage ISN'T "just a piece of paper". There are many, many financial advantages to it.

If you're a woman.

Marriage is definitely NOT an option for me. Don't want it.

Don't want those awful urchins people call "children" either.

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[douchebagsean]

Right now, I'd be lucky just to get a date.

shnikees id be happy to simply have a chick who didnt call for the police every time i said hello

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[Friday]

Im with Chris on this one. Big Time.

Sometimes it doesn't work out quite the way you plan.

But I believe that if i am truly meant to be married....then someday I will find that person and he will find me. And he will put up with my crap and be able to keep up with my insane libido. And he will sing me to sleep and let me do the same. And it will be forever.

And thats all I gotsta say about that!

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[Disúgrunútled]

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A big dog or a small dog? Should she be trained from birth?

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[TooCute]

If you're a woman.

I think you got marriage and divorce confused.


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[Hawiian shirt craig]

I will AGAIN tell everyone what i think about this one.

The point of dating, the end result, it to find the one person that you want to spend forever with. SO why date people that you know aren't taht person? I plan on getting married when i meet the girl i'm going to marry, profound, i know. If that is tomorrow, i'd be psyched... if not, oh well. I am comfortable with myself, alone or not, and am ready to share that with someone.

marriage is not a trap, its great. Getting married to someone you love is just the ultimate "i love you". I plan on getting married as soon as i find someone else worht proposing to that isn't scared by my ideas on this.

Yes i almost proposed once, and it turned out bad because she paniced, and cheated on me and she now regards it as the worst mistake she ever made.

SO yes to marriage. its worth doing right.

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[vegeta]

Whoa hawaiian shirt craig, you seriously need to give your ballss back to the Secret Society of men.

Who the hell told you the end result of dating is marriage? The end result of dating is sex.

Marriage is more for creating a stable environment for children than anything.


Marriage just a tradition more than anything. It's an electric fence to force two people to stay together. If you REALLY love someone, you'll buy them a nice ring because you feel like it and you'll stay with them becauser you love them and you want to stay close to your kids, not because your mom and dads say so.

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[Hawiian shirt craig]

Vegeta- well DUH sex is an important part of any relationship. I was being overly mechanical and breif. simply put, we date to find the person to stick with, ASAP. its almost never immediate.

sex is a very good thing that is SO much better when you love the person you're with. and fer the youngin's out there, i'm only 20, and already sex has vastly improved over HS. dont fuck when you're 15, its usually really bad. (here come the child molester jokes- I WAS 15 too!!!!!!

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[Heavy]

So don't even think about getting married until you're 29-30.

I totally disagree with this. Everyone needs to understand one thing. You WILL get divorced. If you wait til your 30 just think of how miserable you'll be 5 or 10 years down the road when youre old and alone, and with young kids. I got married a full 10 years earlier then what James suggested and keeping true to form my marriage was pretty much done 4 years later. This is good though, because I know what to look for now, and I know what to do differently myself in my next marriage. Besides that I have 2 kids that will both be adults by the time I'm in my late 30's.

GET YOUR FIRST MARRIAGE OUT OF THE WAY WHILE YOUR YOUNG

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[IrishAlkey]

Thanks for the awful advice.

Can we hear from a non bitter member now?

Or, should I say- pay the last reply NO MIND. It is a gross and negligent exaggeration.

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[Heavy]

I'm not bitter atall. Not anymore atleast. It's reality.

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[IrishAlkey]

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[Heavy]

Itll be yours one day too.

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[Johnny Fontane]

This kid I work with is getting married in a couple of weeks. I believe he's only 22 years old. I met his fiance this evening, and she is such a lovely girl.

In my opinion, this guy is way to young to be getting married, but I can see the logic: (1) he loves her, and (2) she's sweet and super cute. He knows he can't do much better, so it makes sense to get married.

Hopefully, this girl won't get bored of him and pull a Kerry Kennedy Cuomo in a couple of years.

"Never tell anybody outside the family what you're thinking again."


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[samnyc]

I'd like to get married. Anyone interested?

[HordeKing1]

I'd like to interject a note of optomism here.

My wife and I met at 19, were married at 21, and have been very happily married for over 18 years.

We were young and stupid then (and of course, at 21 didn't realize it). The only thing we knew was that we loved each other and were infinitely happier together than apart. We still feel that way today, only more so. And yes, the sex gets even better in a good relationship.

Marriage with the right person is perhaps the most wonderful thing in the world. Marriage to the wrong person is among the worst. If you have doubts about the person you're thinking of marrying, it behooves you to take a long hard look at the person and reconsider your options. Even the most friendly divorces are bad.

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[HordeKing1]

How is he in the sack?

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[ShelleBink]

depends on the person

tho as the chick on last comic standing said once, talking a guy who's divorced into getting married again is like trying to convince a veteran to go back to vietnam

unless you're certain about the other person and the rightness of the relationship, marriage can suck.

[Johnny Fontane]

Notwithstanding the fact that my instincts tell me I'm better off single, I'll probably end up getting married some day.

I love that Friends episode where Joey thinks Monica is cheating on Chandler, and he says "I told you not to marry someone that's hotter than you!"

That's my concern - by some stroke of luck, I'll wind up with some girl that's way too hot for me. Then she will get bored of me, run off with some other guy, and then some judge will order me to give up my home and pay her alimony.

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[Contra]

I really don't want to get married, ever. I'm not saying its bad or not for the right people, but I've seen so much divorce and shit in my life I'd have to not be in my right mind to get married. I'm one of the lucky one in the context that my mother actually DOESN'T want me to get married.

I've seen relationships florish for years, and then as soon as that little handcuff slides on, disaster.

No thank you.

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[Steels]

I don't understand the mandate of being together forever. The idea that you should do that is wrong. It makes us slaves to a societal decree. You can still love, but it doesn't mean you have to be tethered to the flesh.

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[ag]

Marriage is something that just scares me. It means you cant look or talk to another female ever again in your life. Fuck, Im only 23 I dont even want to think about being married. My best freind got married at this age. Real hard core paty type of guy, never thought hed be the one to say yes to marrige. Especially to an 18 year old in Vegas. Now hes been married for a while now, settled down quite a bit, owns a house upstate with 2 kids (Puppies that need just as much attention as kids) and livin a life. As much as Im ready for a real serious relationship, Im not ready for marrige

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[guttersnipe]

Marriage is something that just scares me. It means you cant look or talk to another female ever again in your life.

That's a bit of an overstatement. Of course you can look and talk, and even fantasize about other women. You're just not supposed to cross that line and kiss or fuck or become emotionally intimate with other women.

Getting married -- at least to the person I chose -- was a horrible mistake in my case. But if I had it to do over again, I'd still choose to take on the past several years of hell just to have my son and daughter.

I highly doubt I'll do it a second time, though.

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[Johnathan H Christ]

Who the hell told you the end result of dating is marriage? The end result of dating is sex.



ding!

maybe one day, but not now...im young, i like to play. ive had 2 relationships that lasted longer than a year. most of the time within 6 months i get bored. someday i'll find the one i dont get tired of.

but financialy remember... every time you get divorced she gets half, and then you have to pay your lawyer. any which way you slice it thats got to be a kick in the balls.




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[fiestygal]

my best friend just got married yesterday at regina pacis church in flatbush brooklyn and had the reception at El Caribe country club- also in brroklyn...im scared that i wont see her no more since she is married now..she is only 22...i barely got to see her when she was single...is it normal for single friends to feel left out when their friends get married???

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[JohnnyCash]

I cant wait to get married. I have the best chick in the world. Her family is nuts , but she rocks.



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[TheCosmicCircus]

is marriage an option for perrynoid?

as of 2:20am on this 24th day of september?

yep.

only if she's half my age .... wears black knee high" fuck me "boots and has a nice V ;)

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[ashley olsen]

You know, if you'd asked me a few months ago, my answer would have been "hell no." But right now I have a 22 year old friend getting married who is completely happy, and stable, and in love. And I am with an amazing guy that I never thought I'd have, so to say that it's out of the question would be ridiculous. That is my take.

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