i'm going to ante up again

[erole]

yep. got my heart broken, battered, and bruised...I even did stop stuid shit and hurt some women along the way...but here I go. I've met a girl up here in PA. We actually do some volunteer work together and talk on the phone occasionally.
I go into "dullard" (if I can use Moe's word) mode sometimes and not see the signs that someone might be interested in me. Well, she invited me to have lunch with her and we talked about a zillion things and got along really well. She seems to put up with my antics, and humor. She has told me about her past relationships, favorite music...and all that, and it seems she enjoys my company.
One day I looked at her, and I was floored. MY GOD I THINK IM ATTRACTED TO HER! Right out of the blue.
And she's got these green upon green eyes that just totally blow me away. A few days ago she was talking to me, and I swear I got lost in her eyes. Call me a fucking sap or whatever, but I didn't know where I was for a minute. She's adorable, funny, intelligent - the kind of person that wouldn't go out with me, but I'm asking her out anyway.
Wish me luck, she's a hell of a girl. I just want to see if I can make the friend to date transition.
It would be sort of interesting to put what happens back on here - good bad or ugly

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Good luck budday.

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[Arienette]

erole, it sounds like you've got a good thing there.. i wish you luck. you deserve good things.

just wait a few more weeks before you introduce her to the concept of the "gay pouch"

and, we've all been hurt. i don't think there's anyone out there who hasn't had their heart broken, and at some point thought of giving up, that it just wasn't meant for them to be happy. but it does happen. and i really do believe that all that crap that comes before is just preparing you for someone who will come along later... and when they do, you'll be ready for them. again, good luck. i hope things go well

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[high fly]

I'm jealous over here.

" and they ask me why I drink"

[Death Metal Moe]

I go into "dullard" (if I can use Moe's word) mode


The paperwork is still in the process of coming back, but I WILL officially own that word very soon!

As for the lady, good luck my friend. Life is so painful, snatch up whatever small moments of happiness you can and don't let them go.

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[Thebazile78]

You sound dizzy-sick & head-over-heels for this girl.

I hope she's worth it.

Sometimes we've got to walk through all the circles of Hell to find our Beatrice. . . and I'm not sure which is worse, the fire or the ice.

Or even Purgatorio.

Best of luck, dude. :)


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[erole]

This sucks ass. She was busy so far this week. And I find out she was around while I was busy today. DAMNIT
We both work a ton, that's for certain. Hopefully this drama will kick in either tomorrow or Thursday. Until then, my suspense builds.

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[fiestygal]

i hope everything works out good for you with her jason

I'M RICH BIA-OTCH!

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[ThePointer]

Good luck and just keep being yourself. Things have strange ways of working out for the best .

you have two choices: Castration or a one way ticket to New York

[grlNIN]

For the Coven Master :) :


Day after day
I will walk, and I will pray
But the day after today
I will stop and I will start
Why can't I get just one kiss
Why can't I get just one kiss
Believe me there'd be somethings that I wouldn't miss
But I look at your pants and I need a kiss
Why can't I get just one screw
Why can't I get just one screw
Believe me I'd know what to do
But something won't let me make love to you
Why can't I get just one fuck
Why can't I get just one fuck
I guess it's something to do with luck
But I waited my whole life for just one...
Day after day
I get angry and I will say
That the day is in my sight
When I'll take a bow and say goodnight
Mo my momma momma mo my mum
Have you kept your eye your eye on your son
I know you've had problems you're not the only one
But when your sugar left he left you on the run
Mo my momma momma mo my mum
Take a look now at what your boy has done
He's walking around like he's number one
He went downtown and got him a gun
So don't shoot shoot shoot that thing at me
You know you got my sympathy
But don't shoot shoot shoot that thing at me
In your broken down kitchen at the top of the stairs
Can I mix in with your affairs
Share a smoke make a joke
Grasp and reach for a leg of hope
Words to memorize words hypnotize
Words make my mouth exercise
Words all fail the magic prize
Nothing I can say when I'm in your thighs
Mo my momma momma mo my mother
I would love to love you lover
The city's restless it's ready to pounce
It go here in your bedroom ounce for ounce
Said I'm giving you a decision to make
Things to lose things to take
Just as she was about ready to cut it up
She said wait a minute honey I'm gonna add it up
I'm gonna add it up add it up and see what you got
You gotta add it up
Day after day
I get angry and I will say
That the day is in my sight
When I take a bow and say goodnight
Goodnight


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[Aggie]

For the Coven Master

Get it right, he's the Coven Pimp Daddy!

I'm really glad you found someone you can see yourself with erole! I really hope it works out for you, you deserve a good woman. But just try to stay level headed about it and don't get too emotionally attached until you know she feels the same. You're good at reading people so you'll know when to bring it up. I wish you nothing but the best and keep us posted!!

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[grlNIN]

For the Coven Master



Get it right, he's the Coven Pimp Daddy!




hes both in my book, slap me, spank me, make it hurt :)

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[kc7586]

good luck, i really hope it works out, and being hurt does suck.

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What does ante mean? God, I'm dumb.

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[wilee]

Erole-

I wish you luck and hope things go well.



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[Meatball]

Im jealous also, your doing the smart thing.
You cant get something worthwhile without taking risks.
I myself have been dumped more often than Soda at the Special Olympics and it sucks.
A saying i take with me all the time ill share with you.

"Succesful people do the things that unsuccesful people are not willing to do"

your doing what you have to do - good luck!

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"up the ante" is a refference to Poker ( card game) term used to mean to 'place your monetary bet'. In English Language " up the ante" is used to mean "raise the stakes" "take a risk" or "Put it on the line".



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[sxymale]

please let us know how it works out for you..im living vicariously through you dude.

[erole]

Updates as promised...I knew it would be for better or worse, but I never figured out on both.

Well, I stopped short of asking her out. Can you believe it? The reasons are good of course, maybe too good. Here is where you can get an example of the nice guy doing a nice thing in sacrifice of his feelings. The nice guy isn't finishing last here, but he has definately finished in limbo.

So I ask about her from her friends and also I got some information from her own mother too. My family has actually become friends with her parents...how wildly ironic is this? And I was tipped from a conversation with her mom about the possibility of me and her, and what she's been through. I backed all this up with everything she's told me about her relationships.

She has been married, divorced, and just as bruised and battered as I have been with relationships. It seems I would possibly be destroying a good thing by asking her out, and I have to keep my feelings for her in check for our own good. The idea is just to be a good friend and let things go its own course...if it's meant to be, it will happen. Her friends have been trying to hook her up with people in town, but she is vehemently against going out with anyone. She's had some REALLY bad dates and relationships. Even though she probably knows I'd be a gentleman, and even though she would probably say yes to a date, I feel that she's been through enough right now, and I'll be damned if I group myself with jackass men.

I would never talk about someone elses problems behind their back, but I can say she's been through a lot and she's a single mom - I give her all my respect and admiration. In keeping with that, I am going to stand by her as a friend and when the moment is right, I'll ask her out faster than you can say "Dullard," or "Ante" for that matter. :)

Good news though. She invited me to the park with just her and her adorable son. We talked over the weekend. She invited me to lunch again, and I was just invited over her house to talk and go over our service work this coming Friday night. Even more fun (for me anyway) she wants to put up an outdoor ceramics kiln at her house, have me come over to fire pottery, and sell my art at her antiques store. That's so cool! So, it's not like we aren't seeing each other, just as friends getting closer and closer.

All in all, she probably found a "normal" male around her age. To talk and hang out with me is probably so strange for her, but healthy. I have to be patient if I am serious about this. It's funny, because I'm not serious about her, all I want to do is to get to know her better, just really bad. And I guess, in a way, that's what's going to happen. We may click in the future, we may not, but I think for her, I'm something healthy in her life, and I do not mind playing the role of a breath of fresh air.

That's all for now. See what happens to the good guys in this world? Kinda sad. Kinda honorable. But definately something that happens to the good guys. Now all you women know the answer to that "where are all the good guys" question.

If anything interesting happens, I'll post. Thanks for the support 'n stuff! I'm not down, and I'm not out! Who knows what will happen?

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[spoon]

The idea is just to be a good friend and let things go its own course...if it's meant to be, it will happen. Her friends have been trying to hook her up with people in town, but she is vehemently against going out with anyone.
Two points on this quote:
1) You asking of her feelings or simply out to a date can be part of "its own course".
2) Perhaps the reason she vehemently refuses going out with the likes of her friend's suitors is YOU, or she wants to find the right person for herself? Is anyone against the love of a man who has fallen for them, adores her son, and shares many common interests? This may or may not be the one, but just don't let the oppurtunity pass you by. Hopefully she isn't waiting for your move and mistakes your respect as lack of interest. Worst case senario is that she does take her friend up on the date and falls for some asshole who is no good for her and it rips your heart out as an onlooker and friend. There is a song by a new artist, Sondre Lerche, that seems to fit so well here. Even the video, which I caught on MTV2's 120 minutes, captured this type situation. I for one have three great friends who fell for women with children from broken marriages or relationships. I guess it's possible it could happen to me if I fell truly in love, but I believe you and these cronies of mine are truly special people. From one Jason to another, go for it sooner rather then later. Good luck Jay!

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[wilee]

Good news though. She invited me to the park with just her and her adorable son. We talked over the weekend. She invited me to lunch again, and I was just invited over her house to talk and go over our service work this coming Friday night. Even more fun (for me anyway) she wants to put up an outdoor ceramics kiln at her house, have me come over to fire pottery, and sell my art at her antiques store. That's so cool! So, it's not like we aren't seeing each other, just as friends getting closer and closer.Sounds like she's been asking you out

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[erole]

Hopefully she isn't waiting for your move and mistakes your respect as lack of interest.
I have a fear of this. I am debating that fear of lack of interest, with the fear of putting a dent in our friendship.

So I called her Friday and went over to her house. She was sick but still wanted me to come over. We ate pizza, drank more soda than is humanly possible, and retired to the living room and watched TV. Well, actually we really talked for 4 hours straight. About 15 minutes was devoted to service work, the rest of the night was spent talking about childhood, work, relationships, and looks.
Miss Congenitals...or however you spell that Sandra Bullock movie...was on, and she commented about how run down Bullock looked in the beginning of the movie. We got on this talk about looks, and what we thought was good looking. Long story short, I dropped some compliments on her for looking beautiful even if she was sick, and make-up-less.
All in all, it was a good night. Gave her a big hug good-bye, and I'm going to call her tomorrow just to check up on her condition.
I've decided to counter her "asking me out" (tell me about it Wilee) with a move of my own. She asks me out under the guise of the work we do together, so, that's what I'll do tomorrow.
Another funny thing...she told me about her own mother putting up her bio on the internet. how embarrassing is that? then she commented about how there are no good men/dates in the area. I'm taking it as dropped hints...I mean, if you are just talking friend to friend, you wouldn't start that kind of conversation right?
Damn, I'd just like to know if she's ready to go out on a date with ANYONE so I can get the question off my chest.

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[MsBettyBoop]

You are suck a prick.

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[Iamnotatool]

You are suck a prick.



Wowzers....OK TERRIFIC

Please don't hold my huge nutbag against me, or I'll hold it against you that you have flapjack tits...

[erole]

I got home. I called her. I asked her out to a movie. She said yes.
I stressed that it's just a movie, so there was no need to have her friends "check me out" like she's done with previous dates. She laughed and said, no, no, I know you wouldn't do freaky things like them, it's just not you.
so i got what i wanted, a thing, but not a thing. a hanging out, get to know you and that's all thing.
now i gotta pick the night and the movie. so what's good out there?

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[Johnny Fontane]

Erole's got a girlfriend, Erole's got a girlfriend!

Take her to that Steve Martin movie, "Bringing Down The House." Something light.

Or maybe porno, like in Taxi Driver...nah, maybe not.

Good luck, homeslice.

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[Johnny Fontane]

TOP

now i gotta pick the night and the movie.


yo yo yo what the dillio? Where does this romance stand?

"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, accept this justice as a gift on my daughter's wedding day."

[fiestygal]

take her to a peep show/ dirty movie place...now thats what i call an evening at the movies....*nudge nudge* *wink wink* *elbow in the ribs*

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[erole]

So after all this time we fizzled out.
Now she just blatantly asked me out on a date.
After all this time I'm not so interested anymore...unless she gives me a lap dance.

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