erole
03-06-2003, 03:56 PM
from HordeKing off the do all guys cheat thread:
Gender stereotypes notwithstanding, there are
women who want sex w/o the complications of intimacy
and there are men for whom sex without intimacy isn't
fulfilling.
yep.
dated a girl like that once...i left her quickly enough.
the first time i hung out with her was at her house,
then a few days later we got physical, OK OK it was like
the next day, BUT it wasn't me who was playin the
moves. she started it! we had some things in
common, and she was sweet, and funny as all hell
which goes a long way with me and i let myself go.
for two weeks we had the sex, the sex was good like it
normally is, but it seemed that's all we were doing,
because, that's all we were really doing. i would try to
get her to come out, and then she'd say stuff like: wait
there's a movie on, my back hurts, i'm waiting for a
phone call - and you know what? no watched movie,
the phone never rings the whole night, and her back is
fine because she's arching it into the number eight on
the bed. the woman wouldn't quit.
but one day i told her that we had to slow down...it
was that i didn't feel close enough to her. it was one of
those rushed relationships, where you dive in way too
fast. well she agreed, and then, i swear to god, a few
minutes later she rushes me butt naked out of
nowhere. and you can't leave a beautiful naked
woman just standing there.
needless to say, she lied. she wasn't helping. so the
next day i said, listen, that's it, no sex. you want me,
then you're going to have to wait. i told her that i
wanted to actually go out to places with her, have fun,
learn about each other - because the physical part of
our relationship was really getting out of hand.
i explained to her that we were doing things backwards
- we had this relationship already but didn't know who
we really were. and she really thought what we had
was a close "normal" relationship. she was really
confusing.
well she just wanted the sex more and more. i literally
had to fend her off...it was embarassing. i asked her if
it bothered her that she really didn't know me in a way
that you would figure you'd know a person if you were
sleeping with them.
long story shortened: she said no. i said bye.
what can i say, i'm not a man slut.
so what gives here? i'll be honest, those two
weeks...hot damn, we got into some crazy shit. but i
did the right thing. i genuinely thought that we would
draw closer, that the pieces would fall into place, but
she just wanted the "tookie" touched CONSTANTLY.
she really thought that the compatible sex was all you
needed and that everything else is gravy. this
relationship i had isn't the normal me, and i understood
why...because the normal me really does need to love
the woman i'm being intimate with.
Yes, i know, seemingly every man's dream, but it was
shallow, and unfulfilling. i need to TALK, to DO THINGS,
SHARE EXPERIENCES, this girl wouldn't budge or bend
anything but her backside. she was thinking with her
"tookie" all the time and not with her head.
any other odd switches like this out there? there has
to be at least one.
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~The coolest bunch of bastards on earth.
Gender stereotypes notwithstanding, there are
women who want sex w/o the complications of intimacy
and there are men for whom sex without intimacy isn't
fulfilling.
yep.
dated a girl like that once...i left her quickly enough.
the first time i hung out with her was at her house,
then a few days later we got physical, OK OK it was like
the next day, BUT it wasn't me who was playin the
moves. she started it! we had some things in
common, and she was sweet, and funny as all hell
which goes a long way with me and i let myself go.
for two weeks we had the sex, the sex was good like it
normally is, but it seemed that's all we were doing,
because, that's all we were really doing. i would try to
get her to come out, and then she'd say stuff like: wait
there's a movie on, my back hurts, i'm waiting for a
phone call - and you know what? no watched movie,
the phone never rings the whole night, and her back is
fine because she's arching it into the number eight on
the bed. the woman wouldn't quit.
but one day i told her that we had to slow down...it
was that i didn't feel close enough to her. it was one of
those rushed relationships, where you dive in way too
fast. well she agreed, and then, i swear to god, a few
minutes later she rushes me butt naked out of
nowhere. and you can't leave a beautiful naked
woman just standing there.
needless to say, she lied. she wasn't helping. so the
next day i said, listen, that's it, no sex. you want me,
then you're going to have to wait. i told her that i
wanted to actually go out to places with her, have fun,
learn about each other - because the physical part of
our relationship was really getting out of hand.
i explained to her that we were doing things backwards
- we had this relationship already but didn't know who
we really were. and she really thought what we had
was a close "normal" relationship. she was really
confusing.
well she just wanted the sex more and more. i literally
had to fend her off...it was embarassing. i asked her if
it bothered her that she really didn't know me in a way
that you would figure you'd know a person if you were
sleeping with them.
long story shortened: she said no. i said bye.
what can i say, i'm not a man slut.
so what gives here? i'll be honest, those two
weeks...hot damn, we got into some crazy shit. but i
did the right thing. i genuinely thought that we would
draw closer, that the pieces would fall into place, but
she just wanted the "tookie" touched CONSTANTLY.
she really thought that the compatible sex was all you
needed and that everything else is gravy. this
relationship i had isn't the normal me, and i understood
why...because the normal me really does need to love
the woman i'm being intimate with.
Yes, i know, seemingly every man's dream, but it was
shallow, and unfulfilling. i need to TALK, to DO THINGS,
SHARE EXPERIENCES, this girl wouldn't budge or bend
anything but her backside. she was thinking with her
"tookie" all the time and not with her head.
any other odd switches like this out there? there has
to be at least one.
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~The coolest bunch of bastards on earth.