Why do some women love guys who are jerks

[Armageddon]

i mean we as men have always been told that you are supposed to be polite to them and treat them likes ladies and i do. But then they only think of me as a brother or cousin. it sucks really when you then see them with brusies or they complain about thier guy cheating on them but oh they love him so much. what the hell is that about.

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[AngelAmy]

i dont associate myself with people who dont treat me right

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[DJEvelEd]

My mom sat me down when I was 5 and told me to treat ho's like princesses, and princesses like ho's.

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[A.J.]

I've been asking that same question for years.

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[jocefus]

i treated my x like a queen for 7 years she never had to pay for anything i did everything for this girl and she left me for my best friend in february, and he treats her like shit and she loves it. i dont why, but she can go f herself anyway... i guess its true that nice guys do finish last

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[AngelAmy]

i cant think for all girls but maybe some think that if a guy is being nice to them that there is an alterier motive, which in a lot of cases is true. -- i really dont know what im talking about since i myself dont love jerks

not me, i love the nice guys with all my heart and the assholes could burn in hell

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This message was edited by AngelAmy on 12-12-02 @ 2:39 PM

[walking joint]

i don't know why girls do it either. i have 3 older sisters and they each have had a guy or two who i thought treated them like crap and they seemed most into those guys. i told myself that i wouldn't be that way because it pissed me off so much seeing it happen to my sisters. i think i've done a good job.

[Sheeplovr]

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It's the whole "hero" thing...

I know how I used to be. I dated all the jerks and "players" because for some reason I thought I can be their "angel". I always thought that I can change them...make them see the light...change their ways, I guess.

Every woman wants to feel special. Every woman wants to hear their man say "Until I met her...I was lost"

It's a fantasy. That's all.




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[Donnielimes]

It's about display 'JERKS' usually make a display of how they feel by acting out and women respond to that like when a Peacock displays his plummage. It's the same reason rockstars can be ugly and get hot models or even comedians that look like rodney dangerfield can get fine biotches. <P>

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[TomPoo]

My question is,

why does a guy want a girl who likes to be treated like shit????

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[Coco]

I think there are a lot of theories for this. I must add also that men can tend to hook up with the wrong women a lot too. I have known guys that continually end up with cheaters or alcoholics for instance.

First is the theory that "what we don't resolve we tend to repeat". Many times in childhood, a girl/boy may really yearn for their mom/dad to return to them from being absent, be less abusive, etc. <u>I think, subconsciously, we may choose people to kind of "relive" this fantasy so we can "get it right this time".</u> Most likely, we don't get it right, and end up in the same situation as before.

To some people, they just feel comfortable around the same stuff they were brought up with. If they had an abusive/absent dad, they feel comfortable with the same type of thing. Or they may feel that because of their upbringing, that they are not good enough for someone who is decent and kind. Rebuilding someone's self-worth is very important if they have come from an abusive background.

These are just some theories behind this.

Usually the only way to get out of the rut of repeatedly picking the wrong people is to go to therapy to guide you to understand yourself better, reading self-awareness books, or attend group meetings on stuff like this, etc.

One important point to note is recognizing your tendency to choose abusive partners is the very first step to recovering from them.

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This message was edited by Coco on 12-16-02 @ 5:49 PM

[Jackie Sloan]

As Coco pointed out, it has a lot to do with upbringing, and the womans relationship with her father. Most women aren't looking to be abused, but they also don't want to be with a bitchy whiney mama's boy.

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[ChickenHawk]

Why do some women love
guys who are jerks?
Instinct.


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[tricia]

because we're insane

[silera]

Women have an amazing ability to forgive, and to hope. We are able to cloud the issue and point out the good in someone when things aren't going that well in a relationship. I spent 4 yrs married to someone that didn't deserve me. He wasn't abusive verbally or physically. He was neglectful, possesive, jealous and irresponsible.

I think we won't just give up, and we try to fix things. I'd blame myself and try to change things. Eventually though, you realize that you're not the problem. That the problem lies in the other person and you can never fix or change another person's flaws. Either you accept them completely with their flaws and imperfections, or you leave them.

And yes, we are clearly insane.


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[Thebazile78]

i really dont know what im talking about since i myself dont love jerks


Neither do I.

I used to have such low self-esteem that I did, but I am NOT going to sit back and take anyone's s**t now.

I am worth more than that.

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[adny516]

Dont be a total a-hole to women. Women are attention whores but dont give them too much or else thats their free ticket to walk all over you.

[TeRRoR]

im a jerk and an asshole and a dick...

and look at me! single as single can be

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[Shaun]

Nice guys finish last, and unfortunately I've learned that the hard way....
It has gotten me too many friends that are girls and not girl friends....

~Shaun~

[adny516]

Alot of you hate Leykis but the guy is right most of the time about these self centered bitches

[Tenbatsuzen]

The key here is not being an asshole, but to stop being a wuss.

There's a difference between being the nice guy and being the nice CONFIDENT guy.

You can be the nicest guy in the world and still date the girls you want to date if you be aggressive without scaring her.

Women dig confidence - carpe diem, and just GO FOR IT.



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[TheMojoPin]

There's a difference between being the nice guy and being the nice CONFIDENT guy.

And Matty takes it to a whole different, super-secret, fucked-up THIRD kinda level. He's crazysexycool like that.

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[fatylvr20]

I have a friend who happens to be a chick who has a bf whose really not treating her good from what she tells me. yeah ladies n gents she tells me i've known this girl for more than 10yrs(both of us are 20) and she tells me these things. I ask her how shes doing how the baby is and eventually she mentions him. Well i do offer some advice but not too much. Some people think it's bad to be in the friendzone if i ever wanted to get with her but i just take it as is.

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[McNabbShouldDie]

because im that damn sexy!

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[fiestygal]

because they are stupid whore/ bitches who have very LOOOOOOOOOOW self esteem issues

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[Coco]

First is the theory that <u>"what we don't resolve we tend to repeat"</u>. Many times in childhood, a girl/boy may really yearn for their mom/dad to return to them from being absent, be less abusive, etc. <u>I think, subconsciously, we may choose people to kind of "relive" this fantasy so we can "get it right this time".</u> Most likely, we don't get it right, and end up in the same situation as before.



Another thing I wanted to add to this is that the sex of the parent in these situations doesn't really matter. In other words, a boy can have serious issues with his dad and end up marrying/dating a girl with the same type of personality that his dad had. The same holds true for a girl having issues with her mom who marries/dates a guy similar to her mom. (Don't I know!!)

I know that my dad basically "married" his father's personality by marrying my mom. My two sisters couldn't have found 2 men more similar to my mom if they tried. Needless to say, they both had very unhappy marriages.

Again, understanding yourself, your past, and resolving issues in therapy, and building your self-esteem is the best way to keep from getting into situations like this.

I also believe, without a doubt, that in order for anyone to get over any type of abuse in childhood (be it sexual, psychological, physical, verbal) they must believe and understand on the deepest levels that they were NOT at fault.

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This message was edited by Coco on 12-29-02 @ 4:35 PM

[undressa]

I was a big fan of the bad boys but I am begining to understand that not only do I deserve a great man who knows how fantastic I truely am. But there is something to be said about a prison record, jk

[bisqit999]

i did everything for this girl and she left me for my best friend in february,


Want me to drag him outside? Kick the shit out of him??

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