Why the big wedding?

[NurseMira]

I don't understand big weddings. If I ever found the person I love, then I wouldn't care if I was in a closet...I would get married. Big weddings aren't a big deal....


Am I alone?

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[sexy bastard]

MIra I agree with you partly, a wedding isa huge thing to plan andso expensive.I remember itdrove me nuts so muchplanning on a photogragher a place for ther eception, what kind a of food limo church, tuxedos, wedding dress, party favor thingies,dj or band,how many people to invite, seating arrangements, wedding party,wedding party, practice run practice dinner....its so much it drove me nutsand I mean nuts. I mean itsalreadystressful going to get the license, being in line, cold feet problems,honeymoon...a wedding is just a huge party, buttoget married its more emotional spirtual i guess. And even cheap weddings cost around 15000 dollars. Its alot but most of all its alot of planning...but I am still game to go through it all though

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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Mira,

Trust me, if I had to do it all over again, I'd elope and plan a big party for my buds later! But sometimes it depends on your significant other's family. I only have a few dear friends and not much family. We still had over 100 people. If I had had it my way-- I would have had only 30 friends!

It all depends on the situation.

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[NurseMira]

I just don't care for it all. I would rather get married barefoot than have to plan all these elaborate things for my wedding. Maybe I am overlooking the whole point?

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[sexy bastard]

I agree with alice get married firstthenplanthe big party thing atanother time....I think its to much to go though all at once...and mira I dont think you are over looking it, i think your being resonable, I myself wouldratherget married ata little intimate chapel instead of st patricks cathedral with all the whoopla

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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

I think its
to much to go though all at once.


Yes, it was. I spent an entire year planning every detail just to have the day fly by. And then you have to talk to every guest, even Aunt Gertrude from Buttfuck, Indiana. I was so busy I didn't have a chance to savor the day b/c everyone wanted to take pictures or wish us luck, blah blah blah.

My advice-- ELOPE!!!

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[irishkb]

reasons for big weddings... first borns, daddy's little girl, and only childs.... the reasoning as follows... only child.. this is it for the parents so they want it to a perfect day for their baby so in most cases bigger means better..........
daddy's little girl... if your wife to be is the only daughter then most likely she is the apple in daddy's eye.. which translates into spoiling the shit out her for her wedding day.. only the best for his little baby...
firts borns.. the first baby, the first words, the first memories of being a parent.. you have given them so much that they(parents)want to repay you for the memories..

this is just my opinion.. wonder if anyone will agree...

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[Aggie]

Mira- I see where you're coming from and sometimes I think that is what I want. But I have been thinking about my wedding since I was young (kinda like monica from friends, but not as anal!) I want to have a decent sized wedding, reception, all of it. I know it is alot of planning and it flies by but I think I will enjoy it since I've always wanted to do it. Plus, I am my dad's only child so he's had wedding money set aside forever now. My point is, everone has their own style. I could use that money to have a very small wedding, but on an island w/very close friends or somethin....you get my point. Do what feels comfortable to you. But I think most guys would be relieved to hear you say that! :)

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[Jonkeu]

I feel that if it's the girls dream to have a wedding then as the male you should do anything within your power to make her happy.

What I cant get is how people spend 50 grand on a wedding just to invite co workers and busniess clients to it. Kinda silly if I say so. I'd take the money and pump it into a house.



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[Jennitalia]

i'd want a big wedding just for all the presents! :)
since i'm probably going to be the one paying for my wedding, i doubt it will be very big. all i know is that i dont want to have a typical wedding reception. they're so boring

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[TLM]

And then you have to talk to every guest, even Aunt Gertrude from Buttfuck, Indiana.

Hmmm... Never heard of that place in Indiana. Sounds like a place I'd like to avoid.

For me... I'd rather get married on the spur of the moment, jump on a plane to Vegas and get married by Elvis.

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[Aggie]

I'd take the money and pump it into a house.

I agree. I've actually thought about asking for the wedding money and asking for a small wedding. Makes more sense...but at the same time, sometimes things are worth splurging on. Jon-Good to hear you would do that for your woman :) That's how it should be.
IrishKB-If you haven't figured it out, I'm mostly Daddy's girl and only child! So spoiled :)

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[irishkb]

IrishKB-If you haven't figured it out, I'm mostly Daddy's girl and only child! So spoiled


well congrats on that one... as for me i suffer from middle child symdrome(sp)..
as for dumping money into a house you really don't have to.. you will be getting money from guests of the wedding as it is.. so you offer some money the parents(which most likely they will not take) and the rest can be used for a house or whatever...

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[A.J.]

I want to have a drive-thru wedding in Las Vegas like Triple H and Stephanie had.

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[milamber]

I think it all depends on the person. You have to do what suits your personality. Two of the best weddings I have been to have been very different but good in their own ways. One was the whole big affair with the cars and party and the drinks and the band and the hall and the other one was in a gazebo at the beach near Tampa, FL with only a best man and maid of honor. They had a few hours of hours d'ourves with a jazz quartet and a steel drum and then we all changed an hung out in the Tiki bar on the beach and drank and watched the sunset and went hot tubbing afterwards. Both were great and were what the people who were getting married wanted to do. If you do what you want for your wedding and have fun at the party everything else will fall into place.

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[zathrus]

I'm in the middle of planning my
wedding and it's starting to drive
me crazy. so many things to
remember, to do, ect.


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[Sheeplovr]

i watch enough wedding story i think i know how to do it

and i also know how to deliver a baby froma baby story

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[ADF]

Weddings are a personal thing and are meant to reflect the personality of the bride and groom. Casual weddings at the beach or park are great. I'm having a fancy-shmancy wedding, but if my friends don't have a lot of money I don't expect them to cover their plate cost. Weddings in this area are expensive and not everyone has a lot of money (I certainly don't, but my girlfriend does). I think it's best to either have a casual, low-cost wedding or a ritzy wedding. The in-between sort usually come out looking cheesy.

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[Justice4all]

Mira....the next time I will get married twice...once in a small ceremony so we can truely share with each other...the "fake" one will be a party for all to attend...I would want friends and family there...just to celebrate...share in the joy.

I NEVER suffer from insanity...I love EVERY minute of it

[Tall_James]

The big wedding is not for you... it's for your parents. Elope, have a civil ceremony, and have a party afterwards.

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